Myth or truth?

Everything is very simple and complex at the same time. Sex does not imply love, but love always implies sex if people are in a relationship. Anticipating intimacy with a loved one, we develop certain fantasies in our heads, dreaming of being in his arms as soon as possible, inhaling the smell of his body and reaching the peak of pleasure together. But in sex, as in any other area of ​​human relationships, our expectations are not always met. This is sexual incompatibility, which can be caused by numerous factors:

• Anatomical disharmony. Of course, we are talking about physiology. Each lock has its own key, but not every key can open the door. Most often, the cause of physiological incompatibility is not a perfect match in the shape and size of the genital organs of a man and a woman. In this state of affairs, satisfaction in sex is impossible. And the degree of feelings for each other here, alas, does not play any role.
• Biorhythm difference. Each person has his own biorhythm, and therefore his own hours of sexual activity. According to research by sexologists, in men the period of sexual activity occurs in the morning, and in women the desire most often wakes up at night. In addition, there are other factors related to the time that each partner is willing to devote to sex. Some people like to sleep longer in the morning, while others go to bed too early to wake up with the first rays of the sun. Many men work late, and when they return home closer to night, they are no longer capable of sexual exploits in bed. Such problems are especially noticeable if you are a night owl and your loved one is a morning person.
• Opposite temperaments. All people have different needs for sex. For some, one sexual contact a week is enough to feel complete satisfaction, while others cannot live a normal day without physical intimacy. If two people with different sexual needs come together in a couple, then they will definitely sooner or later face this problem, even if at first they sex life seemed normal. Over time, the feeling of novelty and love euphoria fades away and the true temperament of the partners comes to light.
  People with low temperament in bed are usually cold and uninitiative, while high-temperament people are ready to experiment and constantly initiate physical intimacy.
• Age misalliance. Sexual incompatibility in a couple where the man is more than 20 years older can be called the absence of any special need for sex. Sex in such couples can be more of an ordinary physical phenomenon, a kind of release, without any romantic overtones. In a marriage where the woman is much older than the man, sexual incompatibility is less common because sex does not require high physical effort from the woman.
• Mismatched sexual fantasies. This type of sexual incompatibility includes any fetishes and preferences in sex that are close and acceptable for one of the partners, but unacceptable and impossible for the other.

How to “cure” sexual incompatibility?

Sexual incompatibility is not a disease or pathology. When such a problem arises between two people, there is no one to blame, because you cannot go against what is inherent in nature.

One of the main decisions is to continue physical intimacy despite some differences and nuances. As they say, appetite comes with eating, and what you took for sexual incompatibility may just be a bad mood or well-being of your partner.

Frank conversations with your partner can make solving the problem easier. Put aside embarrassment and shame, discuss with your lover what is important to both of you in a sexual relationship, and what, on the contrary, causes embarrassment and fear. Understatement is your main enemy in this matter.

Let there be no secrets between you and your loved one, and then your bed will cease to be a boring haven, but will turn into a real bed of love.

It is believed that intimate incompatibility is just a myth, that is, the problem is completely fictitious. To resolve this issue, you should contact a sexologist, but many couples do not consider it necessary to visit this specialist. But the reason for such failures for the most part lies not in the reluctance to seek psychological help, but in incorrect, illiterate sex education.

Psychological sexual incompatibility: possible causes

Today, experts identify 3 reasons that cause disharmony in sexual relationships and existing sexual interaction in a married couple:

1. Psychological. In this case, the incompatibility will not be associated with illiterate sex education, but with the trauma suffered by one of the partners, usually in childhood or adolescence. This is caused by unhealthy sexual fantasies and undecided orientation. As a result of this phenomenon, there is a decrease in libido and an incipient attraction to people of the opposite sex.
2. Psychosocial. In this case, incompatibility manifests itself under external, social pressure. For example, the formation of homosexual inclinations is observed, but a person cannot admit it because he is afraid of the opinions of others. Because of this fear, he begins to literally forcefully pay attention to the opposite sex, but there is no real attraction here. The cause of a psychosocial nature can also be rejection by a partner, which was observed in the past, or the loss of a partner for various reasons.
3. Psychoneurological. These are depressions, neuroses, fears of “sexual failure.” Such reasons are observed not only in men, but also in women, especially during menopause.

Anatomical sexual disharmony

One of the most important reasons for sexual discrepancy is the disproportion in the size of the female and male genital organs. If there are strong differences in size, sensual pleasure does not occur; one of the partners may begin to form complexes.

Physiology of compliance in numbers

In women, the physiological structure is such that the vagina in a calm state usually has a length of about 7.5-10 centimeters. The first number shows the length of its front wall, and the second - the back, that is, the total depth of the passage is 10 centimeters. When excited, this value increases by 5 centimeters. The length of the penis during erection is also this value - 15 centimeters.

The figures shown indicate the presence of a natural correspondence, while the walls of the vagina have elasticity, they can stretch, adapting to the size of the penis during a long-term relationship - this phenomenon is called “vaginal accommodation”. In this regard, sexologists claim that after some time any couple can achieve harmony in sexual relations.

Problems of physiological inconsistency and possible solutions to them

It is difficult to argue with such a statement, but it should be taken into account that the female vagina narrows by a couple of centimeters during orgasm, and the penis tends to penetrate even deeper during ejaculation. This leads to some complications, including thinning of the vaginal walls and erosion of cervical tissue.

They can help with sexual incompatibility well-chosen positions, mechanical devices that either prevent the penis from penetrating too deeply or add the missing centimeters to it.

This is very important, because a discrepancy of just 3 centimeters is already classified as disproportion. If the vagina is only a little less than 10 centimeters, and the partner’s penis is larger middle length, then positions such as “officer” or “riderwoman” will be contraindicated. In this case, the most comfortable position will be the following: the woman will sit facing the man on her lap. At the same time, the walls of the vagina will reflexively lengthen, which will make intercourse comfortable and simple.

It must be remembered that complete incompatibility of the genitals with absent pathologies is extremely rare. You can always find an option that satisfies both partners by experimenting with different positions.

Differences in biorhythms and temperament

Different biorhythms between owls and larks

Quite often, sexual partners believe that the cause of incompatibility is different biorhythms. Each person has his own peak of activity, for most men, according to studies, it is greatest in the morning, for women - at night. The reason may also be that one of the partners needs to wake up very early, while the other can still sleep. Different biorhythms are also caused by habits - there are people who can lie in bed in the morning, but for others getting up later than nine in the morning is simply unacceptable.

The solution to the problem is very simple - you need to adapt to each other, choose a time that is convenient for both of you. But we must remember that the problem often lies not only in the mismatch of cycles, but in fatigue, lack of mood, and too hard a working day.

Differences in Temperaments

People's sexual needs can vary greatly - once a week may be enough for one partner, while daily sex may not be enough for another. At first, this problem manifests itself little, but after shortest time she begins to cause severe discomfort, showing her true attitude towards intimacy.

A different sexual temperament will still manifest itself, but This issue is resolved in the same way as with mismatched biorhythms.

Family sexual disharmony and orgasm

Orgasm as a measure of successful sexual life

Many couples cannot achieve orgasm, but for some reason they blame it on psychological reasons. Sexologists recommend that orgasm should not be considered the only true indicator of the success of intimate life, because joint satisfaction can be obtained in various ways.

Some women make the big mistake of giving orgasm too much of a role. In case of failure, and this, by the way, is not such a rare occurrence due to female physiology, the partner begins to fear another “misfire”, confidence in inferiority and constrained behavior appear. All this is a direct path to deprivation of sensual pleasure and disharmony in intimate relationships.

In men, the same situation is observed - if something goes wrong with the body, a complex of “sexual incompetence” appears, causing the most Negative consequences. You can’t get hung up on such an imaginary problem as not achieving a joint orgasm!

How should you behave? What to strive for?

So that sex brings positive emotions and pleasure, you should learn to set your own rules, strive for organism and relaxation, but not elevate it to a cult. It must be remembered that disorders will not make intimate life harmonious, so there is no need to put pressure on your partner - it is better to jointly find a way to satisfaction, learn to understand each other, and adapt to the desires of the other.

Incompatibility due to age difference

One of the common problems is the age difference, which gives rise to the following situations:

• men experience a peak in activity;
• For women, the sexual side of relationships still has little meaning.

As a result, multiple conflicts arise, the couple faces male infidelity, and the partner develops an inferiority complex or fear of intimacy.

But here it is necessary to understand that such disharmony is temporary - the man will settle down over the years, while the woman will begin to appreciate intimate intimacy and will mature for a full sexual life.

Different fantasies and ideas about sex

In some cases, incompatibility arises from the fear of being misunderstood. The fact is that everyone has their own fantasies, desires, sexual relations can include role-playing games, fetishes and much more. We need to find compromises, jointly decide what will be acceptable in sex, agreeing on acceptable boundaries.

How to treat sexual incompatibility between partners

To resolve sexual incompatibility between partners, it is necessary to find out the cause of this phenomenon. Based on this, begin the gradual restoration of the comfort zone, learn to be more tolerant, take into account the wishes of your partner, and not persistently achieve the goal, causing discomfort to the other. Perhaps the optimal solution would be to visit a sexologist or psychologist; only a specialist will be able to gently and carefully deal with accumulated fears and problems.

EXERCISE

"CONTACTS OF WOMEN'S POWER AND HEALTH"

Target: Harmonize the flow of energies in the body, increase blood circulation in the diaphragm, which enhances the cleansing of the body, and “nourish” the organs of the abdominal and thoracic cavities with oxygen. Strengthen “cellular”, deep breathing over the entire surface of the skin.

Initial position: Lie on your back on the floor or a hard, flat bed, place a hard pillow or cushion under your neck, close your feet and palms, and spread your knees out to the sides as much as possible. Pull the closed feet together to the pelvis, hands in front of the heart center with palms closed. Accompany all exercises with conscious breathing. For greater effectiveness, use luminiferous breathing.

Implementation of the entire complex:

1. press the fingertips of both palms against each other (8-10 times);

2. press with the pads of your fingers, and then on the entire palm with your left and right hand alternately (8-10 times);

3. press both closed palms with the entire surface (8-10 times);

4. Extend your arms with tightly bent palms to their full length, throw them behind your head, then move them slowly over your face to the solar plexus, as if moving along the spine in the middle of the front surface of the body, fingers pointing forward (towards the head). Do it back and forth 8-10 times;

5. then turn the fingers of your closed palms towards your legs and move them in the same way as in the previous exercise, but from the bottom up - from the pubis to the solar plexus (8-10 times);

6. extend your arms to their full length with your palms closed up and down (10 times);

7. Place your palms tightly closed on your chest above the solar plexus and move your closed feet 1-1.5 times the length of your feet back and forth, not allowing them to open (8-10 times);

8. move your closed palms and feet back and forth at the same time, as if wanting to stretch the vertebrae (as many times as is comfortable).

9. Place your arms along your body and inhale, lifting them up, as if capturing heavenly energy, closing your hands with your palms above your head and moving your hands down, as if filling the uterus with the life-giving energy of strength. (8-10 times) This exercise can be done independently without all the previous ones.

SUBTLETS OF INTIMATE LIFE

Prevention of disorders that reduce reproductive health is largely associated with well-being in sexual life, one of the components of which is compatibility partners. Compatibility can be considered at several levels.

Genetic compatibility (by histocompatibility antigens) correlates with the similarity of the odors of individuals and, naturally, can be assessed by odors. The olfactory subcortical structures of the brain are the oldest and are involved in servicing the sexual sphere. If the partners differ too much or, on the contrary, do not differ enough in smell (respectively, in histocompatibility antigens), the embryo will be rejected by the mother’s body, since it causes either an excessively violent immune reaction (the mother reacts to the embryo as an allograft), or this reaction, which is necessary in certain limits to strengthen the embryo in the uterus, it is too weak and in this case a miscarriage occurs. Women are significantly more sensitive to odors. Thus, the optimal way to carry a pregnancy is middle option in the degree of histocompatibility between mother and fetus. Antigenic incompatibility can manifest itself in a woman’s immune response to a man’s sperm, which prevents conception.

Physical and physiological compatibility includes the degree of anatomical correspondence of partners, similarity of rhythms and plastic manifestations (nature of movements, touches). This, in particular, is well determined during the dance, so dance can serve as a testing moment for plastic compatibility.

Mini test for physiological compatibility:

3 senses must correspond between partners: a sense of rhythm; sense of tact and humor

The similarity of biorhythms plays a huge role in creating comfort in a relationship. Spouses who have high biorhythmic similarity in terms of basic psychophysiological indicators are calmer, healthier and feel a sense of security in the family.

Syndrome "15 to eleven"

The woman is ready for sex, and the man is tired at work. In the morning it's the other way around. Not a coincidence of biorhythms.

And it's no coincidence that they go to bed at different time, over time, the need to hug your wife will sharply decrease. What is eaten unconsciously always manifests itself in consciousness, and therefore in a dream you need to kiss and hug each other.

Exists psychological technique in the art of communication: To win another person over, you need to enter into the same rhythm of movement, speech, breathing, etc. Similar long-term mutual adjustment of spouses makes them similar in behavioral patterns over time. Differences in biorhythmic activity (for example, daily biorhythm - “larks”, “owls”) sometimes so distort the natural way of life of each partner that they can serve as a reason for separation.

Sexual compatibility determined primarily by the similarity of temperaments and level of sexuality. These parameters are determined by nature and age. The peak of sexual activity in a man occurs before the age of 20, and then there is a gradual decline. In women, maximum sexual development occurs at 35-40 years of age; this activity remains at a fairly high level during menopause and after it. After sixty years of age, the opportunities of the sexes become equal. Based on these dynamics, unions between a mature man and a young woman and vice versa can be considered biologically justified. Sexual temperament, for its satisfaction, requires the same level of sexuality in the partner. This is clearly reflected in the classification of women (gazelle, doe, cow, elephant) and their corresponding men in the Indian treatise "Kama Sutra".

What really exists and at the same time is still full of mystery is the mutual attraction of a man and a woman, associated with a certain ratio of their masculine and feminine principles, i.e. with a sexual constitution.

It is known that in a person with a normal genotype, the sexual constitution is determined mainly by the amount and ratio of female and male sex hormones in the body.

Hormones, in turn, model the morphological and psychological manifestations of the individual. According to O. Weininger, the union of a man and a woman is considered ideal if it is organized according to the principle of complementation: the more masculine a man is, the more feminine in appearance he chooses a woman and vice versa. Together, based on the totality of these qualities, the couple should present one ideal man and one ideal woman. A similar conclusion can be reached by analyzing the psychological complementarity of a couple from the perspective of C. G. Jung. According to Jung, in the depths of the unconscious part of the psyche, every man has a hidden feminine principle (Anima), while women have a hidden masculine principle (Animus). Moreover, external behavioral manifestations are in a reciprocal relationship with these qualities. outwardly logical, consistent, firm in decisions, but internally irrational, emotional, soft, in need of love. A woman, on the contrary, is outwardly irrational, emotional, soft, flexible, but internally rational, consistent, practical, and stable. Therefore, raising a wife is much more difficult than raising a husband. The most charming women on the outside can be “samurai in a skirt” on the inside. Anima and animus are formed under the influence of the image of the mother and father. Selecting partners for life together is largely determined by their behavioral similarity to Anima and Animus. We look for external correspondence in others to what we have inside. Therefore, men who are outwardly masculine (but soft on the inside) choose the most feminine outwardly women and vice versa.

Questions psychological compatibility , including in the union of a man and a woman, are quite fully developed in many ancient medical systems, as well as in astrology and socionics. However, the principles are the same everywhere: unions either between similar types or complementary to each other are optimal. In the astrological system, signs of the same element are considered similar, in socionics - identical types. Complementary relationships in astrology are relationships between the signs of the fire and air, water and earth elements (i.e., through 60° of the zodiac circle through a sign), in socionics they are dual relationships. However, you should be aware of the differences between these two types of compatibility. Between such types, knowledge is more easily transferred, understanding arises, a person gets to know himself through another. These relationships are good in the first third of life, when a person gets to know the world and himself. The supplement is beneficial for joint activities

, which corresponds to the tasks of a union of people of more mature age striving for social self-realization.

However, there is that sphere of relationships between a man and a woman that is relatively related to somatic or mental compatibility and is a consequence of the individual internal work and upbringing of each of them. It is expressed in the ability to love and understand another. In the sphere of higher needs, a person seeks reliability, respect, emotional and intellectual resonance, he wants sympathy and understanding.

QUOTE: "In another we love our pleasure"

If a man and a woman receive satisfaction in the altruistic sphere of their relationship, giving (and love is always giving) and receiving tenderness, sympathy, understanding and help, then for mature individuals this is the key to the strength of their union. A common worldview, philosophical and religious platform, subject to mutual love, gives a new quality to the union of a man and a woman. The unity of language and purpose allows them not only to form a strong family for raising children, but also to create something more in the field of universal human values. They say about such unions that they are “alliances with purpose.”

Sexual culture. This concept is immeasurably broader than the culture of sexual relations. And it is in this vein that sex education in society should take place. The formation of harmonious relationships between a man and a woman is based on understanding phenomenon of man and woman.

Man and woman are two different worlds, two mutually generating and complementary principles (yang and yin). Both sexes are equal. A man is an expression of an active, conscious, giving principle, realizing itself in material life, a woman is an expression of a passive, material, perceiving principle, striving to know itself. Together they symbolize the involutive and evolutionary parts of one ring of life. The vector of a man’s activity is directed towards material life. A man is more social, concrete, logical, instrumental; he must know what and how to do, and be responsible for it. A woman, being the embodiment of the material principle, strives, on the contrary, for spirituality, self-knowledge; she is more subtle, sensitive, intuitive, receptive, less socialized, but more biological, for life comes from her womb.

Biological differences between men and women determined at the chromosomal level. The additional genetic material on a woman's second X chromosome determines not only her sex characteristics, but also her greater vitality. To create a man, nature makes additional efforts, because... The intrauterine formation of a male individual is more complex than that of a female. More boys are born, but the life expectancy of men is shorter. This is consistent with the population role of the male, who is the carrier of genetic diversity. The faster the turnover of males, the more genetically diverse the population. A woman is a bearer of the quantitative principle, because the number of children born cannot be more than a certain one.

Despite being genetically assigned to a particular sex, every man and every woman carries within themselves elements of the opposite sex. The specific proportion of these elements is determined by the quantity and ratio of female and male sex hormones, which leave an imprint on morphological, physiological, mental and sexual manifestations.

AFFIRMATIONS

Positive thinking is the key healthy image life.

I love my body. I send the light of Divine love to every organ of my beloved body.

My body has wisdom and knows how to heal itself.

I enjoy life, I am learning to be optimistic, and at the same time my health is getting stronger, day by day all my organs and systems are working better, I have more strength and vigor.

I live by the principle: the older, the younger. The body is a shell for the spirit, and my spirit is always young, which means the body is also young.

Every day I get younger.

I am going to live long and stay young for a long time, I feel how my life expectancy is increasing every day, how my strength is growing, my faith in myself.

I live in peace and harmony with my body, I love and respect it and always help it to be healthy, feel comfortable and confident.

My body is wise, it knows what it needs, and I just need to listen to its voice. My body always strives to be healthy, it knows how to recover, how to gain strength.

I am the embodiment of strength, health, energy, cheerfulness. My body works like a clock.

My eyes burn with the fire of youth, health and love.

Miracles happen in my life every day. I rejoice in them and continue to love and develop myself.

From now on, I give the healing power within me the opportunity to work. This force unwinds like a spring, it has colossal energy, it expels all illnesses from my body and fills me with a clear, even radiance of health.

I forgive myself and others for all the wrongs I have caused. I'm calm and happy. My soul shines and the light of my soul is transmitted to other people.

I love my body, I thank it for all the opportunities it gives me, I lovingly take care of it, giving it the opportunity to always remain strong and healthy.

I have a young, healthy, strong, strong body, my muscles are strong and flexible, I am mobile, energetic, all the organs and systems of my body work normally, and it will always be so.

I feel good in my body and I keep it healthy every day.

I'm always lucky!

I am a Goddess, capable of creating myself and the world around me!

INFLUENCE OF ODOR

Sexual sphere of men and women also has significant differences. Due to their biological purpose, the sexual and reproductive spheres themselves occupy a much larger share in a woman’s psyche than a man’s. A man is more impulsive and proactive, but his life is less subject to the “call of sex” than women. A woman is less active behaviorally, but this does not mean that her desires are weaker, they are less acute, but more powerful and constant. Her tactics are not conquest, but seduction.

MYTH: They say that over time, a man who lives with the same woman becomes dulled in sensitivity due to the fact that the woman secretes the same substances to which he adapts and which no longer excite him.

REPLICA: A good excuse for cheating.

The individual odor of a man and a woman depends on many reasons, but it is mainly associated with the characteristics of the hormonal and immune systems, the bioenergetic field and the bacteria that live on our skin. This smell is as unique as fingerprints, and to a large extent determines the attractiveness of a person. “Each species of plants and animals has its own smell, each race, people and individual genera. Each individual person has its own specific smell.”("Faces of Agni Yoga", vol. 7.)

When a man communicates with a woman, incoming signals in the form of smell are converted by his brain and lead to changes in biochemical processes in the man’s body. At the same time, the amount of testosterone increases, the aura changes and energy potential, which pushes a man to sexual exploits. “Every thought is accompanied by its characteristic smell, causing a corresponding aromatic reaction in the human body” (“Faces of Agni Yoga”, vol. 7.)

In turn, after receiving an appropriate response signal in the form of smell, biocurrents, the woman’s amount of estrogen increases even more, and she becomes supportive and receptive to the advances of this man.

Thus, at the first stage of communication, a man and a woman seem to “sniff out” each other, and then “getting used to it” occurs. This sensitivity to each other is especially evident during ovulation, when the amount of estrogen in a woman’s body increases, which involuntarily enhances sensual aromas. A woman has a special aura that attracts men. In one survey, 71% of men and women considered the smell to be a strong stimulant. Almost a third of women believe that sexy men smell stronger.

It was the need to choose a man “by smell” that forced nature to reward living beings with the ability to “sniff out” each other

INTERESTING FACT

In 1992, studies were conducted on monkeys at the University of Melbourne. Scientists have established a relationship between stressful situations in females and diseases of the genitourinary organs in males who have sexual intercourse with them.

It turns out that microorganisms live on the walls of the vagina - Daderline rods, which come into contact with thousands of nerve endings. Under stress, the female's nervous system is excited, and electrical impulses reach the walls of the vagina. At this time, the amount of adrenaline in the blood increases sharply. Under the influence of these impulses and adrenaline, the Daderline bacillus becomes poisonous and causes inflammatory processes in males. They suggest that the consequences of stress, quarrels, troubles at work and at home cause a similar reaction in a woman’s body.

However, there is that sphere of relationships between a man and a woman that is relatively related to somatic or mental compatibility and is a consequence of the individual internal work and upbringing of each of them. It is expressed in the ability to love and understand another. In the sphere of higher needs, a person seeks reliability, respect, emotional and intellectual resonance, he wants sympathy and understanding.

"When people have very emotional experiences associated with relationships with a partner, they usually place them in the area where the genital organs are located. Women, for example, may hide their experiences in the uterine area. And the more often they return to them, the greater the chance of developing a cyst or tumor." Louise Hay

PSYCHOSOMATICS OF WOMEN

Pain is not the cause of illness, but a consequence.

Stages of pain diagnosis:

1) Psychological reaction. If the sudden acute pain goes away during the transformation, then this is already a signal of disturbances in the system.

2) Transformation and breathing practices do not help. Treated with painkillers or other medications. Deep pain that becomes chronic. Quickly go on vacation and relax. Engage in awareness Why?

3) If the pain recurs, it is better to see a doctor to diagnose the condition. A reason to evaluate the effectiveness of working on yourself through non-drug harmonization.

Disease	Causes	What you need to realize
Inflammation of the genital organs	Lack of hygiene Various partners Alcohol Disdain for the opposite sex Self-rejection Feminism Religious dogmas (celibacy, puritanism)	Learn to transform sexual energy into creativity Remove dogmas and attitudes towards the opposite sex Cultivate maturity and loyalty to internal harmonious principles Interaction of the sexes as creative Acceptance of sexuality Don't sort things out in anger Remove the expression “forever you...”
Ovarian cysts	Accumulation of fluid in the corpus luteum Liquid is a symbol of emotions, there is no relaxation Hormonal imbalance Violation of worldview - there is no female fulfillment, they look for reasons in the partner, and they look for the woman	Express your feelings, don’t hoard them Do not be offended by your partner and do not offend him Use the word “we” instead of “I” Don’t change your partner, but yourself Giving more than wanting gifts Give, not just receive Do not violate the freedom of choice of a partner, be interested in him Let it be given to you too (Luke)
Infertility	Inferiority of reproductive cells or organs Problems with the immune and endocrine systems Unfulfilled spiritual aspirations Accusatory position of external circumstances	Understanding the spiritual aspect of conception Working with fears and conflicts Acceptance training
Uterine fibroids	Psychological child- creativity of the body Miscarriages, abortions - prolonged grief, guilt Fear of being childless	A woman remains a woman without children Remove the fear of heartlessness due to the absence of your children
Problems with menstruation Menopause	Not accepting yourself as a woman Anger at mom (resentment) Unconscious desire to be a man Problems of formation of femininity in adolescence	Don't envy men Create an image and meet the requirements beautiful woman Remove resentment and anger Remove the idea that menstruation is dirty
Breast problems	Problems with the manifestation of maternal instinct Forced manifestation, through the power of caring for others Anger at others because there is no strength for oneself Too strict demands on yourself	Resentment towards mom Forgiving Mom and Her Maternal Behaviors Learn to refuse those who depend on your care Come on, only taking into account your interests (time, opportunities, desire to help, etc.) Allow yourself not to do things that take up time for yourself. Deal with over-concern and anxiety

RESULTS are accumulations of mental laziness, hidden stubbornness, isolation and the desire to insist on one’s own. A means of manipulation and inducing pity.

Exercise

Holodynamic tracking of grievances against men.

1. Made me mad
2. Transformed
3. Invested it back
4. They thanked the man for his new qualities.

Conclusions:

1. A woman should not go to bed immediately after troubles, quarrels, etc.

2. It is necessary to put the nervous system and psyche in order, eliminate the consequences of stressful situations, and then have sex. Instead of using tranquilizers, doping agents, or alcohol, aromatherapy recommends inhaling fragrant substances, Erotic massage or baths with “sensual mixtures”, which, firstly, normalize the nervous and mental systems, and secondly, excite impulses in the receptors of the nervous system, which are responsible for excitation in the erotic-determining areas of the brain, which, in turn, give the command to genitals

CONCLUSIONS

Harmony and Grace

Highest levels of beauty and charm

women are generated by her inner world.

A. Meneghetti

A harmonious woman carries within herself a state of grace. She gives it to others as something special and specific. In theology, this state is considered discouraging and fascinating at the same time.

A person in such a state exudes spiritual presence, and he achieves the glory that arises from the perfect performance of all functions by that person. He lives, feels and enjoys every moment of his life.

The light of a prosperous person does not reach you from the outside, it penetrates you from the inside. Charisma represents vital eroticism, therefore a person endowed with it seems to be the embodiment of the spirituality of other worlds.

Grace is expressed not only in the rational aspect, in personal maturity, in biological health, in the mental state of existential positivity; it comes with the power to change and do whatever you want. (A. Meneghetti)

A woman is in a state of grace to become the “holy of holies” and no one has the right to destroy this, neither the man nor the woman herself. She is at this moment become a manifestation of Life itself, Being itself, and for this service is rewarded with success.

If a woman has felt the energy of grace, then she should invest it, but not waste it:

1. Personal and spiritual growth- invest, unwanted sex - waste.

2. Investing in business and actions, “talking” with friends is wasting.

3. Communicates with unwanted people or boasts of your grace - waste, develop intuition and creativity - invest.

-A woman is endowed with the ability to enjoy everything that happens to her and around her. Pleasure is a necessity, the highest form of life order.

-A woman can get everything she wants because she has acquired the ability to create everything herself.

-A woman must create beauty, holiness, and order for her own sake.

All elements are combined with each other and are born thanks to the Law of Love. All primary elements (earth, air, water, fire) contain consciousness. They respond to Love as the highest manifestation of the Divine.

Unconditional love- this is a state. She is quiet, filling, nourishing, giving, bestowing. This is Love - the Light that fills everything around, this is grace. Unconditional Love thanks. She doesn't show off, doesn't shout, doesn't show off. She just is. It exists, regardless of anything, without restrictions and barriers. She is free, without any strings attached.

In contrast, there is personal love. It is more familiar to a person. There is a certain “self-interest” in this love. It's more like love for something. It can be a thirst for unconditional love. Once we have experienced the state of grace in unconditional love, we strive for it. Personal love is not freedom. These are bindings and restrictions, these are manipulations.

Brings you closer to God

Exercise "LAUGHTER"

Laughter is not compatible with fear. It also feeds us with energy. It charges you with optimism and makes you confident.

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The article will tell you about what incompatibility of partners during conception is.

What is the incompatibility of partners and spouses when conceiving a child: causes, signs, symptoms

In cases where a man and a woman cannot have a child, almost 30-35% of them are to blame for their incompatibility with each other. It is incompatibility that is the main cause of infertility in a couple. You should think about the fact that infertility is your problem if the partners cannot have a child within 1 year, despite regular attempts.

In such cases, the man and woman should undergo a medical examination to rule out the presence of certain inflammatory and infectious diseases. It would not be a bad idea to have an examination by a doctor to check for anomalies in the anatomical structure of the internal genital organs.

What can affect the incompatibility of partners:

• Genetic incompatibility
• Immunological incompatibility
• Biological incompatibility
• Immune incompatibility
• Microflora incompatibility
• Blood type incompatibility

What is genetic incompatibility of partners and spouses when conceiving a child?

The cause of a couple's infertility may be genetic incompatibility of partners. This resonance happens quite often and is obvious, characteristic and main feature this problem is fetal rejection, i.e. Conception occurs, but the pregnancy fails.

Genetic incompatibility and its cause are in the blood, because in order for the fetus to successfully take root, a man and a woman must have the same Rh factor (+ or -) . Conception, pregnancy and birth of a child can occur in couples with different Rh factors, but such children often have serious health problems.

How to get pregnant if there is genetic incompatibility with your husband?

As already mentioned, a couple can conceive a child in the presence of genetic incompatibility, but in order for it to be successful and to avoid health problems, the woman and man must be under the close attention of doctors.

If a genetic “Rh conflict” is detected (in mother and child), doctors inject the woman with a special substance - immunoglobulin. Another way to help a woman bear fruit is to do periodic blood transfusion. Remember that doctors have long learned to overcome this problem; it is only important for the couple to follow clear recommendations.

Genetic “conflict” in gestation

What is immunological (biological) incompatibility of spouses when conceiving a child, how is it treated?

The causes of infertility in a healthy mother and father may be the immunological characteristics of the body. No doctor can explain this feature in detail, because the female body, for some special reason, begins to produce antibodies that have a detrimental effect on the male seed (sperm), killing them.

INTERESTING: On the other hand, there are cases when the male body independently begins to produce antibodies to its germ cells.

In both cases, the sperm is simply not able to fertilize the female cell and provoke conception. There are rare cases when pregnancy began, but the woman’s immune cells destroyed the embryo in the very early stages of its development.

What happens during biological incompatibility:

• A woman is experiencing severe toxicosis
• Pregnancy may spontaneously fail
• The embryo lags behind in development (or freezes completely)

IMPORTANT: Before starting to plan a child, modern reproductive clinics advise couples to be tested for the presence of antisperm bodies (the same antibodies).

Biological incompatibility is a problem on the way to conception

How to get pregnant if you have immune incompatibility with your husband?

At the moment, the problem of immune incompatibility has not been fully studied to this day. What is known is that a negative reaction of a woman’s body to male cells occurs at the first contact and this can happen to absolutely any couple.

INTERESTING: In some cases, such rejection male cells occurs due to psychological stress (fear of pregnancy or children, for example).

Less commonly, immune incompatibility is provoked by hormonal disorders in a woman’s body, both periodic and chronic. In order to avoid problems with pregnancy planning and pathologies of fetal development, you should undergo special tests and additional studies before conception.

What is the incompatibility of spouses when conceiving a child based on microflora, how is it treated?

Each person has his own microflora in the reproductive system (balance of beneficial bacteria). In addition to bacteria, pathogenic microorganisms (microbes) may also be present, which can interfere with favorable conception. The number of these microorganisms is regulated the immune system and therefore, if a woman has a weak one, it will be difficult for her to conceive.

IMPORTANT: If a couple has microflora incompatibility, this will be a clear threat to conception, because as long as it exists, the immune system will protest conception in every possible way.

You can notice the symptoms of pathogenic microflora immediately after sexual intercourse:

• Burning in the groin
• Itching in the groin
• Unpleasant sour odor from the external genitalia.
• Strange mucous discharge that may be copious.
• Frequent thrush in women

IMPORTANT: Infertility due to impaired microflora of a woman or man is detected in only 3% of cases and it is successfully treated with modern medicine.

How to get pregnant if there is microflora incompatibility with your husband?

Disturbed and pathogenic flora very rarely causes infertility, but if such a problem exists, it should be addressed immediately. If you notice symptoms, consult a doctor for advice and treatment, do a compatibility test with your partner in a clinic or private clinic (culture).

Using the analysis, the laboratory will identify pathogens and determine its sensitivity to medications intended to combat them. It is possible to “kill” pathogenic microflora only by taking antibiotics. It is important that both partners undergo treatment, only then will it be effective. After the full course, the man and woman undergo repeated tests.

What is incompatibility between spouses when conceiving a child based on blood group and Rh: consequences and treatment

Incompatibility of Rh blood factors - common problem on the way to a successful conception of a child. The Rh factor is an indicator of protein compounds in the blood of each person. So, for example, people with “antigens” always have a positive Rh factor (documented as Rh+). But, if it is absent, then the Rh factor is negative (indicated as Rh-).

The ideal ratio of Rh factors between a man and a woman for successful conception is the same for both partners. However, a person chooses a partner not by blood type, but “following the call of the heart” and therefore such “Rh conflict” is not uncommon (the mother’s blood is “negative”, and the fetus’s is “positive”).

INTERESTING: Statistics have calculated and revealed that 80% of women around the world have Rh+ and they, therefore, are not in danger of such a problem as infertility due to “Rhesus conflict”.

But do not rush to get upset, because this problem can be completely solved by modern medicine. The woman’s condition is regulated by special therapy; specialists carefully conduct blood tests and perform tests for couples planning a pregnancy. In addition, at the moment there is a special drug that regulates the blocking of antibodies by a woman’s immune system and therefore successful pregnancy is quite possible.

Checking the compatibility of partners for conception: how to do it?

At the moment, modern medicine has “stepped far forward” and has a lot of ways to determine the compatibility of partners and find a solution to the problem of infertility. If you are unable to get pregnant within 1 year, you should consult your doctor for an examination and he will prescribe you a series of important tests:

• Microflora analysis
• Blood analysis
• Hormonal analysis
• Analysis of the immune system

IMPORTANT: Do not be afraid of these examinations and laboratory tests, because they can not only study your level of health, but also determine possible diseases that your fetus can suffer.

Is it possible to do IVF if the spouses are incompatible?

The incompatibility of partners can be judged only when a specialist or doctor has a complete record of examinations and tests of a man and a woman (cultures, blood, ultrasound, microflora, anatomical features, hormonal levels).

Depending on the problem present, the doctor prescribes either treatment or artificial fertilization of the cell (IVF). To ensure that the costly IVF procedure is not in vain, the doctor will carefully study the capabilities of your body and tell you whether you can do it or not.

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