Since we live in a civilized world, we cannot do without the use of etiquette rules. Behavior rules , which must be observed in various etiquette situations, apply not only to adults, but also to children. The foundation of a person’s personality is laid in preschool age, which is why it is so important to start teaching children etiquette from infancy. It is important that etiquette norms and rules are observed in the family good manners. After all, it is thanks to the family that the young citizen receives the basics of etiquette. Of great importance for preschool children are also kindergarten, playground, clinic, public transport, that is, those places that he regularly visits in the first years of life. The child should be taught not only good manners, but also the rules of speech etiquette. This is not easy work, but the joint efforts of adults (parents, grandparents, teachers, club leaders, etc.) will achieve noticeable results.

We take the skills we acquire in childhood with us into adulthood, the success of which is largely determined by the culture of our upbringing. A person who is familiar with the concepts of politeness, communication culture, standards of decency will not experience difficulties in maintaining a conversation and will definitely show himself with the best side, no matter what situation he is in.

Varieties children's etiquette a huge variety (family, passenger, weekend, guest, dining, etc.). But the most important role among them is played. Independent mastery of speech norms is impossible for a child. In this regard, the task associated with teaching a child the culture of speech lies entirely on the parents’ shoulders. A secondary role in this matter is given to educators and people with whom the child has to intersect in the course of his life.

Do not think that young children are not ready to perceive information regarding etiquette. Some behavior rules and communication with people are mandatory even for children. So, from early childhood it is necessary to teach children that:

It is necessary to instill rules of behavior in a child in the first year of his life. A child who does not yet know how to speak already intuitively understands what adults want to say to him - thanks to intonation, facial expressions, and gestures. It’s good when parents wish the baby a bon appetit before the meal, thank him for the toy he offered in return, greet him after he wakes up, etc.

From the age of two years and up to 4 years, the child begins to actively study the world. It is during this period of time that it is recommended to devote all your efforts to familiarizing him with etiquette rules. Information is best absorbed in a playful way. You can stage a situation related to a telephone conversation, involve dolls in the participation, arrange a dinner party, appointing a child as a hospitable host.

It will be easier for this age to master thanks to fairy tales and poems that are closely related to the culture of speech and politeness. The task of adults is to explain incomprehensible words and phrases, and also try to achieve the most vivid and correct perception of a work of art by the child (through intonation, timbre of voice and other artistic techniques).

It is also useful to watch educational cartoons. In any cartoon there are both negative and positive characters. It is important to ask how well the child understood the meaning of the television story, which characters acted badly, and which of them turned out to be the kindest and fairest.

Such “exercises” help children better evaluate the characters of books and cartoons, and understand the main idea that the author tried to convey to the audience. In addition, children develop a desire to imitate the main characters, adopt their moral actions, behavior rules and manner of communication.

5-7 years is much easier to master. It is recommended to conduct training in the form of a conversation, which should be:

• interesting for children;
• short;
• bright and memorable;
• bilateral (with active participation the listeners themselves).

It is very important at this stage of a preschooler’s growing up to increase the educational load, which will subsequently allow the child to develop speech etiquette. The idea is to memorize longer poems, retell book stories or cartoons, participate in role-playing games, didactic games with dolls, learning to read and the rules of pronunciation of sounds/words, etc. Adults need to devote as much time as possible to children who enthusiastically undertake to comprehend everything new. Their future depends on how responsibly adults approach the issue of teaching their children etiquette. It’s not for nothing that children are compared to empty vessels: after all, what they are filled with is what they will be!

Every person should master the rules of etiquette perfectly. Everything is spelled out in them: how to speak correctly, dress, behave at home, and in society and in extreme situations. But, unfortunately, very often we have to study them already in adulthood. Sometimes this becomes a real problem. If a person does not know how to behave in society, he becomes embarrassed, begins to get nervous, and feels insecure. That is why it is better to master the basics of etiquette from childhood. The elementary rules of behavior that parents teach their children serve educational purposes. Only knowing the basic things can you move on to the next stage in learning the rules of etiquette.

Children have an incredible ability to take in all the information that surrounds them. First of all, they see their parents in front of them. It is from them that they take their example, literally copying their behavior and manner of speaking. It is very important that parents behave appropriately. A clear example shows like nothing else how to behave and speak. And, therefore, seeing an example of good behavior before their eyes, children will strive for this ideal.

Etiquette rules are needed everywhere: at school, in transport, at home, at a party, in the theater and many other places. The basic rules are quite simple and children will have no trouble remembering them. Children who have studied all the rules and apply them in life will never find themselves in an awkward situation and will avoid incidents. And this helps to increase children's self-esteem and the formation of a holistic personality. It is important that the child is still in early age felt confident. This confidence, in turn, must be based on his own achievements.

Children received the concepts of good and evil in preschool age, but they learned about correct behavior throughout their entire education at school. After all, school is a second home. Teachers have the same task as parents: they are educators of children. But education itself should not consist solely of moralizing conversations. Students tend to perceive better a clear example, so the main task for a teacher is to set a positive example for children.

the main objective— teach children to use rules of behavior not only “in public,” but also at home. Of course, rules of conduct vary depending on the location and the event itself. But this does not mean that somewhere you can not follow basic rules. A culture of behavior must be observed everywhere, and this should be the cross-cutting goal of all activities.

When teaching etiquette, various forms of teaching should be used:

— conversation classes are based mainly on direct communication between the teacher and students. After a short story from the teacher, there is a question that the children must answer using the information they have just received and their own knowledge. With this form of classes, you can easily find out the general level of knowledge of children on a certain topic. The question-answer form allows you to address both one student and the whole class. At the same time, students' answers must be reasoned. If the correct answer was not received, then the teacher must still explain the material on this issue;

— training sessions are a new method of teaching. Based on examining the same situations from different angles. Efficiency is achieved by playing out correct and incorrect lines of behavior. Children find mistakes on their own and correct them with the help of the teacher. With this form of carrying out the task, the teacher’s goal is only to help the children move in the right direction. Training sessions allow you to play out several scenarios on one topic. Thanks to the “What will happen if...” technique, students can independently model their behavior;

- activities-games - simulation of real events in social life. This helps to feel the situation from the inside, to analyze everything possible options behavior and determine the correct ones. In addition, the material presented in the form of a game is perceived very easily and is better absorbed. During the game, students are divided into either groups or pairs. Through this separation, children learn mutual understanding; — classes with a psychologist help the student to reveal their inner potential and better understand themselves. During such classes, you can determine the level of self-esteem of each student. In this case, you should pay attention to children with low self-esteem, and perhaps conduct individual conversations.

How to explain to a child what etiquette is? First of all, this is a set of magic rules that will help you learn to behave beautifully. Having learned these rules and practicing them daily, the child will be able to easily and simply communicate with family, friends and even strangers. The child will master the rules of good manners and will know how to talk on the phone and behave nicely at the table, in the theater, and when visiting. You can teach your child the subtleties of graceful manners by reading our article.

Rules of good manners

Rules of good behavior- these are the rules, knowing which the child will not find himself in an uncomfortable situation, will not look impolite or ill-mannered. You cannot do without these rules in any type of activity. You should start teaching your child etiquette as early as possible and, mainly, by setting a positive personal example.

“If parents follow the rules of politeness and etiquette, then the child will not behave haphazardly.”

Parents do not need to start abstruse conversations and boring moral lectures about the rules of etiquette. Psychologists and experienced teachers say that such forms of education only discourage children from observing etiquette standards and contribute to the development of an inferiority complex.

It is best to start introducing the rules of etiquette to the little ones using a playful form. For example, with the help of dolls or your child’s favorite toys, you can play out the situation of a visit or theater, a telephone conversation, or a dinner party. Let's say a child, in the role of a hospitable host, receives guests or, together with his toy friends, goes to a performance in a puppet theater. It helps to understand the rules of etiquette well, in which the rules and neatness are explained using the example of characters understandable to a child.

“The basic rule of good manners is for the child to understand how important it is to treat others with respect. This law is the basis of all other rules of decency, because the rules of etiquette are nothing more than the good habit of treating people with respect in different situations.”

Here are the simplest and most mandatory rules of good behavior.

Explain to your child that ugly:

• scratching, combing hair, picking teeth and under nails while in public
• do not greet family members in the morning and evening
• stomp loudly, shout, slam doors
• get ahead of others when passing ahead without apologizing
• answer “yes” and “no” sluggishly and unkindly
• sneeze, cough and burp without covering your mouth
• behave in society too loudly and provocatively
• entering a closed door without knocking without waiting for permission to enter
• interrupt a conversation between people unreasonably and without permission
• talk very loudly, chatter incessantly
• drag your feet when walking
• chewing gum in public.

My phone rang

When the baby gets a little older, he can make and answer phone calls himself.

Teach him how to talk on the phone:

1. Tell your child that phone conversations should be brief and polite.
2. It is considered indecent to call before 08:00 and after 21:00.
3. After dialing the number, the conversation begins with a greeting.
4. It would be a good idea to ask if this call is distracting the person.
5. If you receive a call asking to invite one of your family members to the phone, there is no need to ask unceremonious questions like “Why do you need him?” The person will introduce himself and say why he is calling if he decides that it is necessary.
6. If they call mom (dad, grandmother), but she is not at home, it is appropriate to ask who called and what to say.
7. Don't forget to respond to greetings.
8. If a child makes a call and hears an unfamiliar voice on the phone, then you need to introduce yourself and ask to call the person you need.
9. If your child dials the number incorrectly, you need to apologize and hang up. If they call you at home with the wrong number, you don’t need to get angry, but politely explain: “You’re wrong.”
10. If a stranger calls, then you should not post details about the life of the family; it is better to call one of the adults. If so, there is no need to notify anyone about this by phone.

How to behave at the table

From the time a baby begins to eat with adults, he needs to be taught table manners.

"Advice. There is no need to teach too complex rules of behavior at the table from an early age: why a certain fork or a certain glass is needed. The child will learn all this later, if necessary. Basic rules of decency are sufficient.”

The basic rules for child behavior at the table are that you cannot:

• eat by slurping, smacking and chewing with your mouth open
• do not use a napkin while eating, licking your fingers
• stuff your mouth too much
• sit down at the table if the child is not washed, not combed, or dressed unkemptly
• put your elbows on the table
• pick food with hands (picking)
• spit out food
• lean back and rock in a chair
• sit at the table, lounging.

Need to:

• wash your hands before eating
• start eating with everyone together
• eat in silence
• use napkins
• give thanks at the end of the meal for the delicious food.

This simple rules parents must teach their child.

"Advice. Failure to follow the rules should not be tolerated. The rules of etiquette that a child does not want to follow from childhood will be quite difficult to instill at an older age. Remind the rules more often.”

A video in which funny characters talk about table manners will help parents convey them to their children in an accessible way.

In addition to these rules, children need to know and follow the rules of behavior when visiting and in public places.

Let's go visit

Even the most modest, polite and well-mannered children should know exactly how to behave when visiting.

Tell your child how to behave decently:

1. Is it worth visiting without an invitation? No. Uninvited guests are not welcome. Unexpected visits always cause anxiety. It will be better if you warn about your arrival in advance.
2. It is not customary to visit people “empty-handed.” It is better to take a small gift with you - a “token of attention”. The owners will be pleased.
3. When you meet, you should greet them with joy.
4. When you come to visit, it is better to behave quietly, calmly, modestly. There's no point in running. It's better to have fun at home.
5. It is inappropriate to make comments to the owners of the house, to critically evaluate the situation, pointing out shortcomings.
6. You can't touch anything without permission. Interior items located on shelves can be fragile or very valuable to the owners.
7. It is indecent to be a guest for a long time: it tires the hosts.
8. It's not good to ask for a visit.
9. Before leaving, you need to thank the hosts for the warm welcome.
10. Don't forget to say goodbye.

By following these simple rules, your child will never be a source of discontent and will make good friends who will be happy to invite him to visit.

We visit the theater

When you start taking your child to the theater or concerts, it is better to immediately start explaining to him the rules of behavior in such places.

Tell your child in an accessible way how to look and behave:

1. People go to cultural places dressed smartly. Jeans, sneakers and sports suit- These are clothes for walking and playing. When going to, boys should wear trousers and a shirt, and girls should wear elegant dress. When entering the theater, you need to remove your headdress.
2. It is not customary to be late for the theater. It's better to come early to rent outerwear and put it in the wardrobe, put your appearance, take the seat indicated on the ticket. According to theater rules, after the third bell they are not allowed into the auditorium.
3. If the seat is in the middle of the row, it is better to take it in advance so as not to cause inconvenience to those sitting around. If this happens, you need to go to your place facing the people, not forgetting to apologize for the disturbance.
4. It is not customary to talk during a performance or performance. It’s better to watch quietly and share your impressions during intermission.
5. There is no eating or drinking during the performance. For this purpose there is an intermission and a buffet.
6. During a performance, it’s not nice to rustle papers from sweets and candy bars and throw them anywhere, or drink juice loudly through a straw. You cannot stick chewing gum to the chairs in the auditorium, damage them, peel off the upholstery and smear them on your feet. Teach your child to value and respect the work of other people.
7. If you have a cold, it is better to stay at home. A cough or runny nose will only distract both spectators and performers.
8. It is not customary for artists to sing along. People didn’t come to the concert to listen to other spectators sing.
9. You cannot stretch your legs into the passage.
10. No need to make noise.

"Advice. For a younger child preschool age It's better not to buy front row tickets. Seeing the faces of the actors in makeup up close, the baby may get scared and cry. The visit to the theater will be spoiled, and the child will not have the desire to go there again.”

Remember that if your child behaves impudently and defiantly in the theater, then you risk becoming an object of disapproval from others. And in order not to blush for the behavior of your child, it is better to explain in a timely manner the rules of behavior in the temple of culture.

What to do if a child does not follow the rules of etiquette and always acts his own way, no matter how much you tell him? This also happens, because all children are different. Parents try to raise their child to be a good person, but he does not behave at all the way they want, he does not obey. In this case, parents should be patient and insist on their own, trying to find new effective and acceptable forms of raising a child. A solution will definitely be found and you will still be able to instill in your little fidget the most basic rules of behavior in society.

A child, like a sponge, quickly absorbs everything he sees. That is why parents should behave attentively, culturally, giving best example behavior. It is important not only to explain the rules of etiquette, but also to unquestioningly follow them yourself. Looking at you, the child will adopt better behavior and easily acquire good habits. Remember that parents are the main people in a child’s life, whom he strives to emulate.

Have you ever wondered what it's like to be a child in today's hectic adult world? In the age of information and incessant noise, even adults sometimes find it difficult to make themselves heard. Now imagine how much more difficult it is for children?

Good manners and good manners make it much easier to overcome the noise and be heard. Manners are a kind of social glue that allows dissimilar members of society to stick together. It is important for parents to teach children the language of ethics so that they can use it when communicating with peers and adults and gain the necessary benefits.

By teaching children etiquette and giving them a set of guidelines for managing interactions, we are actually equipping them with tools to help them be heard, develop their confidence in their own abilities, and set them up for future success.

So, here is a list of thirty-two rules of etiquette that parents should teach their children.

Greetings and farewells

These rules can also be used by adults as a refresher course. Consistency and practice of potential social situations leads to the ability to communicate in a positive way, which over time becomes second nature:

1. Greet the person by name, and if you don't know his name, ask. Greeting them by name is a sign of respect that tells a person that you value them. Therefore, it is important to teach children to always greet adults by name and patronymic or ask if they do not know their name.

2. Never be afraid to ask again, if you have forgotten the name of the person you are talking to: People understand that sometimes children can forget names. Everyone does it. In this case, the phrase: “Sorry, I can’t remember your name, could you remind me of it?” is quite acceptable.

3. Try to look your interlocutor in the eyes: looking into a person's eyes while communicating with him is useful not only for children, but also for adults. Also, teach children not to be distracted; otherwise, the interlocutor will receive a signal that you are not interested in him. A look into the eyes - simple, but effective method help children win the heart of every adult they meet along their life path. Of course, if such eye contact is typical for a given culture and social norms.

4. “Nice to see you”: It's important to add positive comments at the beginning of the conversation. Examples of such comments are: “Nice to see you” or “Nice to visit you.” Going beyond the standard greeting shows that the child values ​​the person they are talking to.

5. “Thank you for the invitation”: it doesn’t matter where you come - to play on a visit, to a kindergarten or to grandma’s house, you need to teach your child to thank him for the invitation, for the troubles, for taking care of himself; Such words will give a much greater result than a simple “thank you.” Such words demonstrate the child's appreciation - a quality that is so lacking in today's youth. They will definitely benefit children in conversations with adults.

6. “How are you doing...?” and listen to the answer: We all automatically ask “How are you?”, but often forget to wait for an answer. Teaching children to ask and then listen carefully is the first step to the next rule of etiquette.

7. Remembering details and active listening: This is a simple rule of good manners, but it has a significant impact on how other people perceive you. Remembering names and specific details (such as illness or recent return from vacation) suggests care and respect.

Additionally, if your child is shy and hides behind you every time you meet someone, you need to accept it... up to a point. In reality, these children simply need "conversation scripts" or the language of social interaction.

Pick some of the tips above, such as making eye contact when greeting, even from behind your legs if necessary, and work on perfecting it. Start slowly and gradually.

Your child should not be forced to hug, kiss, or otherwise physically interact with family members or friends. As a socially acceptable way to smooth out the feelings of an offended relative, the following is suitable: “I am sure that the child will definitely show his warm feelings towards you. Let's not force things."

Physical space

Children are extremely physically active. They love to run, jump, tumble and play. Add to this limited impulse control and quick feet, and you have a recipe for disaster when it comes to interacting with adults, especially those who are not used to or simply do not like the company of children. By teaching your child the following rules of etiquette, you can ensure that he can succeed and impress even the least patient adults.

8. Be careful- stop and look around: children are often blissfully unaware of their surroundings. For them, one impulse replaces another. For example, you came to the zoo with your kids, and while you are looking at the elephants, they suddenly notice something interesting in another place. Without thinking for a second about what is around them, the kids run headlong and almost fall under the wheels of an elderly man's wheelchair, who begins to worry and get angry for obvious reasons. It is very important that parents constantly remind their children of the need to stop and look around before moving on, and not only when crossing the road, but everywhere and always.

9. Red light, yellow light, green light: You may have noticed that teachers, swimming and soccer coaches, and many other adult mentors in your children's lives use this valuable tool. By using the green light as permission to “go,” the yellow light to “slow down,” and the red light to “stop,” you can control children’s movements and movements without raising your voice. Start using this method as early as possible and introduce it to your kids as a game. Soon, with practice, they will become very good at determining when they can “go,” when they should “slow down,” and when they should “stop.”

10. Remove your hands from the glass: This rule may seem a little funny. Teach your children not to touch glass surfaces with their hands, especially dirty ones, so that they do not leave stains, and your dance teacher, store owner, librarian, doctor and many other people will be very grateful to you.

11. Do not grab, do not snatch: This is not only an important rule of etiquette, but also safety. Understanding this comes when you see, for example, how a two-year-old child snatches a knife from his mother’s hands. If your child likes to grab things, take what he grabs from him, but do it gently, and then gracefully hand the object back to your baby. Do this until the child understands that snatching things from other people is unacceptable.

Eating and behavior at the table

Eating is a slippery area of ​​etiquette. On the one hand, good table manners are extremely important, on the other hand, etiquette in this area may vary depending on culture and society. As children grow older, they often eat with other people. They attend birthday parties, spend time with relatives, attend holiday dinners, and visit friends. Moreover, eating is an area of ​​etiquette that can be taught from the moment the child is born.

When a baby eagerly pounces on his mother's breast during feeding or snatches a bottle of baby food, parents have a great opportunity to start teaching their baby the rules of good manners. Hold your child and gently explain to him that he needs to be patient, and then start over. Young children do not understand words yet, but eventually they will learn that if they snatch the bottle before it is offered to them, or put their hand under their mother's shirt in an effort to feed, they will not get what they want.

Toddlers should be taught not to throw food, to use cutlery, and not to stuff large pieces of food into their mouths. Preschool children can be taught how to properly set the table, eat with proper manners, and serve themselves correctly using a variety of kitchen tools.

Good table manners are very important from the moment a child shares breakfast with a friend to an adult having lunch with his boss. When eating socially, a child can either succeed or lose it. The following tips should equip your little one with the most current social eating rules.

12. Eating off someone else's plate- even from mom’s plate is a bad idea: some families play a game where you can “steal” food from each other’s plates. It can be very funny and acceptable at home when the whole family participates and enjoys the game, but it stops being funny when it involves someone who doesn't understand this kind of joke. Eating food from another person's plate is unacceptable. It is much better to politely ask for more, even if mom or dad has to help the child get it from their plate.

13. Don't forget about internal rules each family: In some families, children are allowed to get up from the table immediately after they have finished eating everything. However, in other families, all family members sit at the table until the last of them finishes eating. Teach children to always be interested in and follow any rules of conduct at the hosts’ table.

14. Try food out of politeness: We all have our own culinary preferences. Fortunately, gone are the days when it was considered good manners to finish everything on your plate. However, children should be taught to try some food that they don't like for some reason, just out of politeness and to show respect for their owners. Afterwards, it's perfectly acceptable to say, "Sorry, I'm not a big fan of..." or "I don't really eat...". Firmly explain to children that under no circumstances should they tell the person who feeds them that the food served looks disgusting, terrible, or that they cannot stand it (this also applies to dishes prepared by their mother).

15. “Can I help you?”: offering your help is appropriate in all areas of life. But offering to set the table, clear the table, or wash the dishes is considered a special form of politeness.

16. Napkin on laps, elbows off table: These days, these rules of etiquette are considered old-fashioned and many people take them a little casually. However, since in different families there are different traditions, children should be taught these table manners so that they remain on top in any situation.

17. Don't reach for anything. An old but true rule. Etiquette rules do not allow you to reach across the table for anything. Every parent knows how frustrating it is when a child tips over a glass and spills its contents on the dinner table. In order not to spill tea on your neighbor's lap and not make everyone sitting at the table nervous, you need to politely ask them to give you what you want.

18. Permission to leave the table: This is a very important etiquette rule! As soon as your child learns to speak, you should introduce him to how to properly ask to leave the table. This can be useful not only after meals. Every time a child needs to leave the table, he should be able to correctly ask permission to do so.

Hurray, gifts! (And other rules of etiquette at holidays/aways)

Holidays and birthdays are events where children come into contact with other people, often without their parents. Therefore, when receiving and visiting festive events It is important to know the rules of good manners.

19. Invitations: Children's birthday parties can be expensive. Therefore, it is not always possible to invite everyone you would like to see. Teach your children to give invitations carefully and not to discuss the upcoming holiday in public unless everyone is invited.

20. Respond to invitations: just do it. Nothing is more frustrating than worrying about whether you have enough of everything you need for the holiday, or whether it is too little or too much. Inform the host in advance in writing, by email or by telephone whether you will be able to attend.

21. Be a good guest and hospitable host: It is important to teach children, as hosts, to ask the guests what they would like to do, and, as guests, to offer their help in cleaning up after the holiday meeting. Teach children to warmly welcome their guests and create comfortable conditions for them. This will lay the foundation for properly managing social situations in adulthood. If a child learns to be a good guest, this will ensure that he or she receives more invitations in the future.

22. I already have this, this is not what I wanted... You just need to say thank you: this rule speaks for itself. Teach your children to be polite, hide their disappointment, and show appreciation for attention.

23. Look for nice things to say about the gift. Important rule good form says: when receiving a gift, you need to look the giver in the eyes and say “thank you.” But to achieve even greater impact on your environment, say a few good words about a gift, even something as simple as, “I can’t wait to start using this.”

24. Thank you for coming/Thank you for inviting: standard, but extremely important words.

25. Letters of gratitude: There are many creative ways to express your gratitude, but the easiest ways to express your gratitude are to teach your child to send handwritten letters expressing gratitude to people who sent them a gift, who went above and beyond simple politeness, and to those children who took the time to come to the day. the birth of your child. These Thanksgiving letters can be as simple as, “Thank you for (name of the gift), (some nice words about the gift).” Preschool children can simply write their name, while older children primary classes schools may rewrite your letters or write their own letters.

Interaction with adults

While there is no doubt that children these days are more isolated than they used to be, they all have to interact with adults who are not their parents at one time or another. The following skills will help facilitate these interactions and make children welcome in any company:

26. When talking to adults, wait until they address you: This is a rather old-fashioned rule that has lost its appeal in recent decades. However, in today's technological world, where it is difficult to tell when an adult is busy, it is actually very important that children do not interrupt a person when he is speaking.

27. Teach children to identify pauses in conversation.: almost all parents know that they need to teach children to apologize correctly, but the 21st century is moving so quickly that we need to take another step forward and teach children to correctly identify a pause in a conversation; a pause is an acceptable moment to start speaking yourself.

28. Is it necessary to interrupt the interlocutor: So, your children know how to politely interrupt someone, and now it's time to teach them how to determine whether to intervene in a conversation at all. Does the conversation cover a topic close to the child, or does it touch on adult topics?

Rules of courtesy when using the telephone and high-tech devices

In today's fast-paced, instant access society, it is extremely important to watch your words, especially those in print. In an age of screenshots, message forwarding, group messaging and random recipients, it is important that words or images reach the intended person.

It is especially important to start teaching children etiquette when using high-tech devices at an early age, since many children in primary and secondary school already have access to them or their own mobile phone. When Internet-enabled devices are in the hands of young children, parents need to pay more attention to how little ones use them and take appropriate action if necessary. Here are a few simple rules etiquette in this area.

29. Watch your words: Previously, bullying and persecution only occurred in person. Most parents teach their children that it is important to show kindness in personal interactions with people because bullying is unacceptable. However, mean comments and insults have now moved into cyberspace and are often beyond the control of adults. Make every effort to make children understand that words can hurt another person.

30. Transmit, send online only what everyone can see: We've all heard stories of images or text messages being accidentally sent to the wrong person, or sent to the right person but ending up in the wrong hands. Technology can be dangerous, and it is important to teach children to use it with extreme caution. Photos, texts and messages may be made public on the Internet. Children don't always see the danger of damaging their reputation until it's too late.

31. Hide your phone away during live communication. Seriously. Sometimes it's difficult. Many people don't follow this advice, but we must teach children to be present when communicating. If we don't teach them to focus on the task at hand now, they will never learn to do so. Teach them not to be distracted. Apply this advice to yourself as well. Put your phone away and pay attention to your children, mute them if necessary, and show them that you appreciate them.

32. Gesticulation Among other things, it helps to avoid interruptions in telephone conversations: teach children to give and understand hand signals so that they do not interrupt you when you are talking on the phone. Now that personal electronic devices have permeated the business world, working from home, in the park or in the stands of a football stadium is becoming increasingly common. For their own benefit, it is important for parents to teach their children the basic rules so that they can end their phone conversations without unnecessary interruption.

A great way to achieve this goal is to teach children to use hand signals. Signals may be specific to your family, meeting your specific needs; Only your imagination can limit you. Gesticulation is useful not only during telephone conversations. “No” or “stop” signals can interrupt unwanted behavior without having to shout throughout the house.

Finally

It is believed that in modern world the rules of etiquette are more flexible, but at the same time even more necessary. The miracle is that if you give your child these simple tools described above, you will be amazed at the positive impact they will have on his ability to manage the world around him.

Positive interactions create confident children, and a confident child is a happy child who becomes a happy adult.

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Instilling the basics of correct “table” behavior should begin as early as early childhood, only in this case will cultural skills become a habit and, to some extent, a natural personality trait of first a preschooler, and then a schoolchild.

However, parents who are dealing with the problem of instilling table etiquette rules in their child must take into account that their child perceives adult habits as a model of behavior. This means that it is important to monitor your own manners, otherwise all your efforts will be in vain.

Apple from the apple tree

Teaching a child to behave correctly at the table is the task of mom and dad, not teachers in a preschool educational institution. When the baby begins to “eat” with adults, it is the latter who should instill in him the correct manners.

The best educational method is your own etiquette. If the household members themselves behave with dignity at meals, then, most likely, the child will eventually begin to perceive the rules of behavior at the table as a completely natural act.

Adequate food intake does not just mean eating quietly and using the necessary cutlery, but, first of all, the child’s ability to:

• eat without messing around with foods;
• don't slurp;
• do not rock in your chair;
• don't laugh loudly;
• don't push, etc.

Surely every child at an early age was interested in one of the above, bewildering guests or irritating parents. Adults should be persistent in teaching the child and point out incorrect behavior.

A child of one or one and a half years is not yet able to hear parental requests the first time, understand and change his behavior. In addition, at this age, children are not able to eat carefully due to physical characteristics - their tiny fingers are so clumsy that they cannot transfer the contents of a spoon into their mouth without much loss.

That is why you should mentally prepare for the fact that neat breakfasts are still far away, but there will definitely be scattered porridge, spilled soup and spilled jelly on the table. Only regular training will help you to confidently use cutlery after some time.

However, at the same time, the child needs to be explained basic rules, such as those that you can’t throw porridge, knock on a bowl of soup with a spoon, or pour juice on the floor. Behavioral norms are laid down already in early childhood, so there is no need to consider such explanations a waste of time.

To prevent the child from playing around with food and cutlery, it is necessary to set aside separate time for play activities: buy plasticine mass, safe paints for fingers. This will allow children to realize their natural desire to play.

It's one thing if the problem of sloppy lunches lies in imperfect fine motor skills– you shouldn’t rush things, everything has its time. But if a child deliberately misbehaves at the table in order to attract parental attention, then it is necessary to react.

Children may not understand everything yet, but they are able to understand the emotional state of their parents. Therefore, mother can and should be told that bad behavior upsets her, since she prepared delicious porridge especially for her beloved son (daughter).

When to start etiquette lessons?

Etiquette and table manners are an important part of a child’s growing up. However, you need to decide at what age you can start targeted training.

Experts usually call the period 18 months when a child begins to actively imitate adults, diligently copying all their actions. In addition, it is at this age that children are already familiar with cutlery and operate them more or less skillfully.

All these opportunities must be taken advantage of. First of all, you should start with yourself, getting rid of the habit of drinking milk from a carton or mineral water from a bottle.

And, of course, it should be understood that the principles of behavior at the table for children should be as simple as possible and correspond to age and individual characteristics. For example, it is stupid to require a two-year-old child to know how to use a knife.

Playful activities are the most important method of teaching a child table etiquette. By coming up with a “celebratory reception in the royal palace” (with the participation of dolls), you can unobtrusively introduce the baby to the basic rules - both at a party and at home.

So, the age from 1.5 to 5 years is the ideal period for the formation of many habits, including such useful ones as table etiquette. A game will come to the rescue: playing with dolls that are having lunch, or playing with a teddy bear that comes to visit. And when the child grows up a little, he will be able to master other skills:

If a parent wants to teach a child how to behave at the table, then it is necessary to give up shouting and irritation. You should also remain consistent in your demands. Adults need to repeat the rules day after day and not change them at will.

This age period is the most important and fruitful for instilling table etiquette skills, but the situation is complicated by the fact that children no longer so obviously trust their parents’ words. The child is able to notice the discrepancy between the mother’s demands and her wrong actions.

What should children at this age be able to do? Below is a short list of basic etiquette skills:

If a child is “embarrassed” while visiting, you should not give him a beating in the presence of a stranger. You need to talk about the violation at home; if the offense is serious, you can arrange a family council.

Table etiquette for teenagers

A child over 10 years old usually already knows well all the rules of good behavior for children at the table. He understands how to properly handle basic tableware and understands when to sit down and leave the table.

However, these are only the main principles that every decent person should know. Now it is necessary to move on to narrower and more specific knowledge.

For example, you can teach your child to use utensils that are not used every day: crab and lobster forks, fruit tongs, ice tongs, salad tongs. Firstly, this way children will expand their erudition and culinary capabilities, and secondly, it’s just interesting.

In addition to advice for each age stage, there are also general rules, the implementation of which will quickly accustom the child to “table” etiquette. What do experts recommend:

Parental example is the lesson that children learn best. If mom or dad behaves carefully at the table, uses cutlery correctly, washes their hands before eating, etc., then mastering the skills will not take long.

What are the benefits of table etiquette?

Not all parents realize the importance of teaching their child table manners. But nowadays these skills are becoming truly necessary for a successful life.

Today, more and more often, serious matters are discussed over dinner in a restaurant, where deals are concluded. In addition, do not forget about visiting catering establishments with a pretty girl or guy, business partner. That is, observing etiquette can help in adult life, and cause harm.

The above outlines only general principles. Of course, each child is a bright individual, and each unit of society has its own dining traditions and rituals.

However, table etiquette for children in any situation has a common goal - to teach the child proper behavior in society, which should be useful in adult life. Therefore, parents should have a little patience and put in a little effort so that they can then be proud of their child’s impeccable manners.