Essay on the topic “Is it possible to be happy without love?”
Love, in my opinion, is a very contradictory feeling. It can save a person Hard time and give him wings, make him happier. But it may also happen that this same wonderful feeling will destroy a person or cause unbearable pain that cannot be forgotten even over the years. Therefore, it is very difficult for me to answer the question: “Is it possible to be happy without love?”, but I will try to come to an answer in my reasoning.
It seems to me that love between a man and a woman is quite fleeting. I once heard on a TV program that this feeling goes away after about three years. But many married couples have existed for 50 years or more. And at the same time they consider themselves quite happy. It seems to me that when love passes after three years, a moment comes when a person is simply so accustomed to another person that he can no longer live without him. When a person feels good with another person, then why can’t this also be considered love? A special love that does not cause such a storm of emotions, but which awakens a quiet fire in the soul that can warm the soul for many years. This cannot be considered love to the fullest. But affection and sympathy based on respect and mutual understanding can also make a person very happy for many years. But, of course, such a metamorphosis requires long and hard work on oneself. The second partner should do the same work. Only in this case can passionate love turn into reliable sympathy and affection.
But you can often observe a different picture. When a couple joins a family out of great love. And while they had this three-year period of love, everything was relatively good. But after passing of this period the couple begins to quarrel more and more and find faults in each other. And no one wants to do any work on each other. There are no old feelings, and there is nowhere for new ones to appear. A conflict occurs. Often there is only one way out of this conflict - divorce. People had love, but did they become happy with it after three years of relationship? I doubt that divorce can be perceived as a holiday. For a short period of time, these people may have been happy because of love. But as soon as the love ends, they break up to find a new one. But they forget that it can be preserved for many years thanks to understanding and respect.
It seems to me that it is also difficult to live without ever loving anyone. A person whom no one has ever loved and who himself has not experienced this wonderful feeling becomes tough, indifferent to the feelings of the people around him, rude. Such a person can perhaps be happy deep inside himself. But this happiness will come from the suffering of others around him. This means this happiness cannot be real. Only the person who makes the people around him happy can truly become happy. Not loving anyone is, in my opinion, weakness of character and cowardice. Yes, love can bring not only joy, but sometimes suffering. But giving it up completely is also not an option. After all, until you recognize pain, you will not be able to appreciate all the beauty of happiness. Therefore, in my opinion, it is absolutely impossible to live a happy life without love. And at the same time, it is not so important how long it will last, the main thing is how you will feel at this moment, what feelings will arise when you look at your loved one. It’s so wonderful to know that your love is mutual and makes not only you happy, but also those around you.
According to surveys, no more than 34% of married Europeans live with Cupid's arrow in their hearts. And somewhere in the East, even less - a different mentality. And love and happiness are terms with an indefinitely broad content, that is, flexible concepts: everyone has their own ideas about them.
✓ It was all gone. Love is a perishable product, and both partners understand this. But do they rush to run away when the feeling leaves or fades? Often not, because a stable couple has already formed, overgrown with children, property, traditions, friendship, affection have appeared... And many do not want to break all this, squander what they have accumulated over the years, even for the sake of such a bright, but unstable feeling as love. Or they don't take risks.
✓ Having lost we cry. 75% of people, according to surveys, tried to return great love at any cost. According to the same statistics, only 62% fight for a broken marriage. Conclusion: love is more precious to us than family. But if only everything were so simple! After all, it is unknown how many of these marriages were for love. Perhaps the remaining 38% do not seek to save their marriage because they know for sure that there is no love left there or there was none at all. And while fighting for love, no one knows what will become of it over the years, whether it will ultimately bring happiness (family or any kind). But since we don’t want to be even less happy than we are at the moment, we try not to miss at least a scrap of this feeling. Losing something real is always difficult. But without saying goodbye to one love, you cannot find another. And without knowing the bitterness of misfortune, you cannot understand what happiness is.
✓ If you are full and your nose is covered in tobacco. During the experiment, scientists asked couples questions: “Do you often touch each other? Do you use general things? Do you look into each other’s eyes?”… Those who answered in the affirmative were given a brain scan. And it turned out that in loving partners the same area of the brain is activated, which is responsible for basic needs - food, water, sleep, a roof over your head, oxygen. Thus, a comfortable, friendly, gentle, respectful, trusting relationship with the opposite sex can also be considered our basic need. And if it is satisfied, albeit without unbridled passions, then we can feel full and happy.
✓ Love is carrots, fog is deception and all that. David Lewis, a doctor of psychology from the UK, explains: “From a biological point of view, love is a unique trick of evolution.” Children, roughly speaking, are born not from love, but from sex, and love was conceived by nature as a decoy or bait, so that we would mate and reproduce more willingly. New love- new offspring, another love - and another offspring... For the population, this is an ideal option. For some individuals too. But this has little to do with family happiness. Family happiness in our culture and in the modern understanding is the stability, stability of a couple, its reliability, the confidence of each partner that he can completely trust his half.
✓ For the rest of my life. It happens that love lives in the soul, but there is no partner nearby. Can a monogamist, left without an object of feelings, be happy in family life? Maybe if he convinces himself that: “I (and my child) are a full-fledged family, and I’m happy.” No one asks you to betray and forget a wonderful feeling, but you must allow yourself to become happy again. The main person you need to build a relationship with is yourself. If you know how to enjoy solitude and value the time spent with and for yourself, then you certainly won’t be killed, for example, because of a broken marriage. Well, it’s not in vain that they say that we knock out a wedge with a wedge. Today's marital happiness is always more valuable than the past, even such wonderful feelings. You just have to allow yourself to feel it. Someone who knows how to love so deeply and for so long has great emotional potential. It may well be enough for another marriage and new happiness. Even if the beginning of the relationship is not too passionate.
✓ She will come unexpectedly. It is precisely established: love cannot be synthesized artificially. Scientists at Rutgers University in the USA conducted a series of experiments in which they tried to instill love through hormone injections. But it only succeeded in inducing a feeling of excitement. It was never possible to find a combination that would make you fall in love. But gradually falling in love with a partner over the course of life and finding happiness with him, as practice shows, is very possible. Contrary to misconceptions, love is not always the trigger in a relationship. Family history may begin with the banal desire of one or both partners to settle down, to put their lives in order, to continue the family line, to improve their financial situation... But the relationship develops, the partners open up and the feeling about which they write poems (“I remember a wonderful moment”) and sing songs gradually matures (like Whitney Houston) and make touching films (like “Titanic” or “Three Poplars on Plyushchikha”).
Is it possible to be happy without love?
There is no happiness without love. Everything else is self-deception.
It was said above about different types love. Everything in the world is built on love. Monks live by love for people and God. Women love their parents and children more (many try to give up sex, explaining that it’s a constant headache). And lustful women, by the way, have always been condemned. Scientists are obsessed with ideas, artists are obsessed with their images. But such love has nothing in common with intimate love. The law of self-preservation is self-love. etc
How long could we live without love?
A genius would be able to create something.
I am firmly convinced that no, all justifications are based on the love of art. only excuses and unwillingness to admit the obvious.
I think yes. Not a clear answer, of course. You can answer that no, a person cannot be happy without love.
But, I consider myself a happy person, even though there is no love at the moment.
I just know for sure that in the future, that in the future this love will come.
And then there will be complete, one whole happiness and love.
Happiness lies in the little things.
And the eyes say a lot. They always say more. They have their own soul, separate from words. Eyes will always tell the truth.
If you look into my eyes, you can see that I am happy, although sometimes not everything is perfect, but this is rare.
I have a house, parents. This is happiness.
No, parents and love are a completely different topic. If we look at this question as a family, then there is mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, and love. Parental love.
That's clear.
But I understood this question as the relationship between a guy and a girl, later husband and wife and their love. Just like that.
And there is happiness even without love.
But when happiness complements love, then the person is so happy that it simply cannot be described, it just needs to be felt.
Remember Pugacheva, it may be possible to live without love, but... how in the world can you live without love.
No, you cannot be happy without love. People who say otherwise are lying. To others and/or to yourself. You can live without love for your partner, but we still live loving our family and friends, plants and animals, poetry and our hobbies in the end. And we need a response, by the way. Consciously or not.
Man is designed in such a way that he needs soulfulness.
It is definitely impossible to live without love. For some, the most important thing in life is love for a man (woman), for others, love for a child, love for work, love for money, love for power, love for parents, love for animals. Without love you can never be happy!
Of course you can.
Love is so subjective and everyone looks at it differently.
Is it possible to be happy without a family that values you and cares about you? I think that in the end everyone needs such a family, they need a loved one who will support and help, who can be trusted. But not everyone will agree with this.
You can be happy without legs, and without money, and without this very love. Especially if the love for Lenka is from the 9th century. The main thing in happiness is to have what you want, and love is too subjective to desire.
- The power of love makes a person change for the sake of the one he loves
- Love is not always beautiful on the outside, it is expressed in happiness inside a person
- Love can make a person do rash, fearless and even immoral things
- The essence of love lies in the fact that loving person will never hurt her lover
- Love for people is the ability to sacrifice oneself for their happiness
- Love brings out the best feelings in a person
Arguments
L.N. Tolstoy "War and Peace". Pierre Bezukhov's love for Natasha Rostova can be called real. He knew that Natasha was the fiancée of Andrei Bolkonsky, his friend, so he did not allow himself too much. Pierre's best feelings were manifested in his readiness to help, support in difficult situation. He respected the man he loved. Pierre had the opportunity to look after Natasha when Prince Andrei was away, but he considered it low to interfere with someone else's happiness and ruin the relationships of people close to him. This is real love: it lives inside a person, manifests itself in noble deeds.
A. Kuprin “Garnet Bracelet”. Zheltkov, an ordinary official, turns out to be capable of true love. Love for Vera Sheina is the basis of his life. Zheltkov dedicated his entire existence to this woman. He understood that they could not be together: the social status of these two people was very different. Zheltkov did not interfere with Vera Nikolaevna’s life, did not dream of winning her, but simply loved her - this was the highest happiness for him. The hero’s suicide is not cowardice, because he died so as not to disturb Vera Sheina. Zheltkov gave her the most expensive thing he had - a garnet bracelet. He said goodbye to life with a feeling of gratitude for everything that love gave him.
M. Bulgakov “The Master and Margarita”. Margarita’s love for the Master can be called real, incredibly strong. Margarita is ready to do anything that will allow her to be with her loved one again. She makes a deal with the devil and becomes queen at Satan's ball. And all for the sake of one person - the Master, without whom she cannot live. Love motivates a person to do the craziest things. The power of love is greater than the feeling of fear. Margarita proves this, for which she receives a reward - eternal peace with the Master.
Jack London "Martin Eden". Coming from a working class background, poor young sailor Martin Eden falls in love with Ruth Morse, a girl belonging to the upper class. Love encourages a poorly educated young man to develop himself in order to overcome the abyss that separates him and Ruth. Martin Eden reads a lot and begins to write his works. Soon he becomes one of the most educated people, having his own opinion on everything, most often different from the prevailing opinions in society. Martin Eden and Ruth Morse are engaged, but this is kept secret, because the young man is still trying to become a writer, but still has no money in his pocket. No one believes in Martin Eden: neither the sisters, nor Ruth, nor the Morse family. He works hard in the name of love: he writes, sleeps for four hours, reads, writes again, because he truly loves Ruth and wants to ensure their happiness. After a scandal surrounding the personality of Martin Eden, caused by a young reporter, the engagement is broken off. Ruth doesn't even want to talk to him. But when he becomes popular, rich, receives recognition, then they begin to love him. Ruth is no longer against marrying him: she says that she has always loved him, that she made a terrible mistake. But Martin Eden does not believe these words. He realizes that he has not changed a bit during this time. When the engagement was broken off, works that received recognition had already been written. This means that since Ruth broke up with him then, she didn’t really love him. But Martin Eden's love was true, real, pure.
M. Gorky “Old Woman Izergil”. Not only love between two hearts can be real, but also love for people in general. Danko, the hero of the work, sacrifices his life in the name of saving people. His goal is noble. Danko rips the heart out of his chest and lights the way for them. People come out of the forest and are saved. But no one remembers the hero’s feat, and yet he gave his life for the happiness of those around him.
Love occupies a special place in the life of every person. This feeling can be many-sided and multifaceted. Love between a man and a woman, love for children, parents, home, love for one's homeland. Each of these feelings has its own emotional connotation. After all mother's love and love between spouses are radically different and cannot be put on the same level.
However, no matter who our love is addressed to, it is based on mutual understanding, respect, tolerance, readiness to help at any moment and the ability to sacrifice
the most dear for the sake of a loved one.
Every person is worthy of the love they deserve. If a person does not know how to respect himself and others, he is unlikely to experience respect for himself even from a loved one. A person who is able to appreciate himself will definitely meet someone along the way who will also appreciate him. best qualities. You can’t humiliate yourself and dwell on your shortcomings. Otherwise, a person risks meeting disdain and pity, but not love. Often the opinion of others means more to a lover than his flared feelings, and love goes away. Don't let others interfere
into your personal space. Protect your feelings from prying eyes.
Lovers can handle all difficulties, but the world begins to exist only for the two of them. When you fall in love, you want to change everything for the better, dream about a wonderful future and enjoy every new day. It is not for nothing that there is an opinion that lovers produce a happiness hormone that awakens a person’s hidden capabilities.
Mutual love gives a person great happiness. However, there is often an unrequited feeling that makes you suffer inconsolably and cry. Unrequited love often forces a person to do stupid things, but you shouldn’t do it. It’s best to treat this feeling like last year’s snow and wait new meeting like next winter, when new fluffy snow falls.
Love between a man and a woman is the beginning of a new life and the guarantee of eternal life on Earth. Writers, artists, composers, actors, and sculptors found inspiration in this aspect of love.
One of the beautiful and eternally relevant works about love is W. Shakespeare’s tragedy “Romeo and Juliet”. Two young hearts could not unite during their lifetime, but the power of their love united years of warring families. In this tragedy, love is shown as a great and all-conquering feeling that can perform a miracle.
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