Are you planning to get married? So you have already spotted your faithful wife? I congratulate you on your upcoming marriage. And whoever else chooses, let him read the article.

In some song I heard a verse about how happiness must be met.

Then fall in love and get married. Not looking.

For the most part, this is what inspired men do.

Their choice, in fact, stops at the woman’s external attractiveness.

Let's take a look at useful tips a psychologist who responds to Artem Sergeevich. Many readers are already familiar with it.

Greetings, dear audience.

* To choose a wife, you need to understand that mutual love is not a signal for living together.

* When you love desperately, you notice almost no flaws.

I, already in adulthood, allowed myself to make a timid assumption.

I already feel like I’m being judged for it.

* So, the more we love a woman, the less suitable she is for our wife.

Damn addiction, tested by me in practice.

* You should choose a wife with your head, which is on top. And not the one that sways between the legs.

My first marriage took place out of romantic and, you know, mutual love.

But when the romance all ran out of steam, we realized that we still wanted to “take a walk” a little.

* Choose the one you like. With a twist of femininity and the desire to create a strong family.

*Be sure to meet her parents. Grandparents are no exception.

* How high are her demands and desire to live richly at the expense of her legal husband.

* To choose a faithful wife, you need to evaluate her “sinful temperament.”

I don’t want to offend anyone, but there are women created solely for comfortable entertainment, and not for the routine raising of children.

* As a wife, kind and devoted young ladies who are able to sympathize with the grief of others are suitable.

* Passions hardened from spoiling are not suitable for your wife.

* Don't chase glitter and flashy beauty. It is with her that they fall in love.

* The right choice of a wife is a “pursuit” of modesty and fidelity, when one of you endures the hospital, and the other does not rush to someone else’s bed of love.

In life, situations are different. You can be introduced to your future wife, while hiding her shortcomings.

* Choose your life partner yourself, who was raised correctly.

Such women have not lost their morality, spirituality and warmth.

* As for sameness, husband and wife are a single whole in their global outlook on life and long-term aspirations.

It is forgivable only for young men and old men to marry solely out of blind love - an ironic remark that hides the pure truth. A man with a mature mind and a strong mind, making a choice in favor of a potential wife, must understand that a deal, no matter what kind of turnover is involved in it - money or love - always remains a deal. There will always be someone on one side who makes a choice, and on the other side someone waiting for this decision, and in order not to find himself in the disadvantageous position of the second option, a man needs to firmly understand what his future wife should be like.

How to determine readiness for marriage

Determining your own readiness for marriage is no easier than finding a worthy candidate to move through life together. When you want to get married and are hesitant, which way should you swing - back, into the comfort zone, where everything is so familiar and arranged, or forward, into the world of pots and drying diapers?

If suitable girl has already been found and the only question is whether the time has come for the decisive step, you can look at the list of factors that indicate that the point of no return has already been crossed, and calmly make an offer, if any are present in your life:

• the couple has no need to take a break from each other; on the contrary, even everyday life, with washing and cooking, is perceived by both at ease and without sharp edges;
• young people relax together everywhere - they have a wide circle of mutual acquaintances and questions such as whether or not to take your significant other to the next party don’t even arise;
• the man developed (or initially had) a calm attitude towards “ Women's Day“and the associated inconveniences - going to the store for hygiene products, caring for a girl if she doesn’t feel well;
• the fear of the thought of future children has disappeared, moreover, corresponding dreams and plans arise;
• relatives on both sides of the young people are already aware of the seriousness of the relationship;
• there are joint large purchases - furniture or equipment, and all expenses are made from the “common pocket”.

The main factor that most men have a very difficult time overcoming is the complete extension of their personal zone to their girlfriend. If this moment is completely blurred and the concept of individual space is pushed aside, this speaks volumes, and in particular, about complete readiness for marriage. What does it mean? When a girl can take your phone to scroll through a page on a social network, and it doesn’t annoy you, you can safely take her to the registry office - the time has come.

The ideal wife - myth or reality?

This and the next section seem to be discussing the same topic, but they are not. How a man imagines his future, without yet having in mind a specific object with which he could connect it, and how this future should be are two different things. Now let's talk about grandiose plans and fantasies, the name of which is the ideal wife.

The creation of a reference image, if it does not turn into an obsession, is a normal state of the process of stimulating consciousness, working for the future. If a person did not have the ability to dream, he would not strive to realize both himself and the space around him; in other words, would be mired in the swamp of the current moment. Striving for the ideal is the norm, despite the fact that everyone understands the very absurdity of the idea. After all, in fact, none of us needs an ideal; it is impossible to fall in love with it.

It often happens that “the one” towards which the heart trembled is strikingly different from the image embodied in the thought form, but what’s interesting is that from that moment the thought form itself, the ideal so carefully cultivated in the mind, changes radically and acquires completely earthly and imperfect. It is a proven fact that the first girl who changed the features of a soulless but ideal mental model to her own parameters, for many years, or even for the rest of her life, dooms a man to look for these features in other women.

Ideal parameters

If we build the top characteristic criteria that a man always keeps in mind when thinking about his future wife, then the ideal wife should be:

• beautiful and well-groomed;
• smart, but not smarter than her husband;
• flexible, but with character (personality);
• balanced;
• economic.

It was not for nothing that the last item ended up at the bottom of the list, since men remember it, as a rule, realizing some practical side of the issue after they have listed what really worries them. The exception is “mature husbands” who have already been married before - for them this aspect may even be on the second or third level of the top, but, of course, not before the external characteristics of the chosen one.

What should a future wife be like?

What should She really be? The following list was created with the support of male logic, but based solely on the experience of modern psychologists studying divorce statistics. So, which women are least often noted in these statistics:

1. Smart, with an IQ level of at least average. You can discuss most life issues with someone like this, without fear of remaining misunderstood or seeming funny.
2. Unacceptable sudden marriages and equally rapid breakups. Of course, in this matter there must be categorical points (for example, treason), which the girl has the right to consider grounds for divorce, but these are nuances.
3. Outwardly attractive, pleasant, attractive.
4. Those who set their priorities correctly - first the husband and children, and only then - career and hobbies.
5. Without bad habits- does not drink, does not smoke, has no reason to hide the facts of his past.
6. Ready to make compromises in her personal life, and publicly always taking her husband’s side.
7. With a sense of humor, but without unhealthy sarcasm.
8. Ready to play family life a second role, although in fact this is most often not the case. Another incident of psychology - when a woman openly recognizes the dominance of a man in the family, he more willingly fulfills all her desires and openly patronizes her little weaknesses.
9. Managing the household competently and economically, that is, without waste.

When preparing a portrait of the perfect future wife, psychologists did not just miss the moment when considering whether the spouse received any monetary income. The fact is that a marriage created with the prospect of a lifetime does not initially imply the woman’s share in providing the family with everything necessary. A girl can work and earn even more than her future spouse, but this role of “breadwinner” in no way fits into her responsibilities for a healthy family life, and a man must always remember this.

Choice of the rich and famous

Of course, the principles of how millionaires choose their wives are not applicable to the average statistical needs of mere mortals, but some points of this interesting manual successfully resonate with the concept of simple human happiness, which is understandable to us:

1. A millionaire's wife is first and foremost beautiful wife, and her beauty is not always classical, but always bright and conspicuous. There is a publicity factor here - men love to leave a trail of admiration behind them.
2. A smart wife is the second mandatory point. They also marry dummies with Barbie looks, but either after that they have to wise up dramatically, or give way to someone with whom they can talk about the weather and discuss important matters.
3. Ability to manage a household. It is not necessary to wash the floors and stand at the stove, but a woman must manage this entire process perfectly, so that when her husband comes home after a hard day at work (millionaires have them too), he does not come across the unsettled life and fuss that has arisen.
4. Willingness to give birth and raise children, taking into account that the always busy, earning spouse is almost unaffected by concerns about illnesses, studies and age-related problems of the younger generation.

Since wealthy males start thinking about marriage late, it is rare that a girl manages to boast that they “started from scratch” together. By this period, a man has accumulated sufficient experience in identifying fortune hunters, and they become quite suspicious. But everything ends, as a rule, in a stereotypical way - a young beautiful wife is nearby, and all the accumulated experience is temporarily silent.

How does a man raised according to the canons of Orthodoxy choose a wife?

In conversations with Orthodox priests, issues of marriage are often touched upon from the perspective from which the church views them. It is very significant that men who have gone through the harsh seminary school develop a special, touching attitude towards girls - the priest, when sorting out the next incident in a relationship, almost always tries to look at the issue from the weaker half’s point of view. This may be why marriages between clergy and parishioners almost never end in divorce.

Here are just a few tips on how to choose a wife according to Orthodoxy and what actions are taken for this:

• You shouldn’t give a girl hope for a relationship just because you don’t want to miss out on a good candidate - this can give rise to distrust of all men in a failed bride;
• any step towards the girl you like - even an offer to accompany you home after work or study - is already taking on some obligations, therefore such minor steps also need to be thought through;
• when asked about when to get married, you cannot look back at the desire to “walk longer” - often girls, without waiting for a serious proposal, break off the relationship themselves, and the church does not condemn them for this, but condemns the “lack of fun”;
• You shouldn’t choose a bride for her beauty, she won’t always be 20;
• a large age difference (more than five years) is a serious obstacle to the harmonious development of relationships in marriage, although there are exceptions;
• Between the proposal to marry and the conclusion of the marriage, about a year should pass in chastity - if the girl has withstood this test without grumbling, she can safely get married.

A man should only consider himself ready to get married when he comes to the understanding that he is ready to give his life for his chosen one - then this will be considered true, responsible love, then the wife will consider herself protected.

Modern approach

Modern life provides many opportunities to better study the lifestyle and hidden motivation of a girl about whom serious steps are expected. How to choose a wife, focusing on publicly available methods of dating and communication? We are talking, of course, about the Internet, but in the context when the girl is familiar young man By real life, but there is no way to find out more about her.

There is no need, annoying with excessive importunity, to visit her page every day or “get in your face” with offers of friendship. It is enough to visit the treasured profile once and draw all the necessary conclusions:

• Photos. It is unlikely that, when thinking about the topic of which women are chosen as wives, one can imagine photographs of the “fifth point” or other candid moments open to public attention. Draw conclusions.
• Notes. They can tell you a lot, but you can’t judge only by the “top” of the 2-3 articles the girl liked. Maybe she was in a bad mood and the notes reflected that, but that's not always the case. Study the tape by rewinding at least 10-15 entries.

It is impossible to draw conclusions about a person’s personality based only on his “media” face, but this can greatly facilitate the task of finding common points of contact.

5 rules of marriage that are better to know in advance

In terms of today's dynamic life, issues of a man's age or appearance are not nearly as important as the ability to earn good money and provide for his family. For this reason average age Marriage for men is closer to 30 years of age, while for girls the need to get married arises when they reach adulthood. This was reflected in the fact that some marriages began to resemble a “father-daughter” scheme and the concept of a man’s responsibility to the family was distorted into the appearance of an ox cart.

Nevertheless, healthy values ​​regarding the responsibilities of both spouses have not gone away and remain relevant to this day:

• the husband has the last word in everything fundamentally important issues, but this does not mean that the wife cannot speak out, on the contrary - if her opinion is more sensible, a real man will not stubbornly bend his position;
• the main thing a wife should be able to do is stop on time, and this applies to everything - shopping, reproaches, spending time with friends; in other words - everything in moderation;
• both spouses have the right to spend part of the family budget on personal interests (fishing, knitting);
• each spouse must have at least a small area of ​​the apartment that will fully reflect his tastes and the second spouse must fully accept this;
• People living in a marriage must have common topics for conversation - where evenings are spent in silence, simply because there is nothing to talk about, the marriage quickly fades away.

You can skip the next section on how to get married and not make mistakes, since it is more of an informational guide than a recommended guide and does not reflect the ideas of competent psychological preparation for marriage.

Tests that may not exist

Some insecure young men begin to test girls to see if they meet their needs, often adjusting their own falsely understood values ​​to the expected reaction of their companion. Such frequently practiced tests also include rituals that openly insult female dignity, after which a self-respecting girl can break off a relationship without any reason.

Let's name some of these tests and advice. How to choose a wife if you are an outright loser:

1. The girl is taken to an expensive store (salon) and asked to choose the item she likes. At the same time, her reaction is monitored, and when the girl makes a choice, she is simply told the conclusions of the testing - whether she passed the test for greed or not.
2. During dinner at a restaurant, the “subject” is informed that the gentleman forgot his wallet at home and she must pay for dinner. If a girl is embarrassed, she is declared stingy and not ready to make sacrifices for her beloved.
3. During a date, a young man seemingly accidentally meets a pre-arranged “acquaintance” with a spectacular appearance on the street and, in the presence of his bride, cheerfully discusses some topic with her for 5-10 minutes. At the same time, the reaction of the companion is assessed - if the girl is noticed to be nervous, she is accused of feeling possessive, and they inform her that she is not suitable for the role of a wife.

These and many other so-called tests can only worsen relationships in a couple and are certainly unable to answer the question of how to choose a wife.

How our ancestors chose their wives

In Rus', the main person determining a girl’s suitability for marriage was the matchmaker. On the other hand, there was a demand from her if the girl she indicated later turned out to be of an obstinate character, of a free disposition, or, worst of all, incapable of having children. In the arsenal of an experienced matchmaker there were all sorts of methods for obtaining the necessary information, but, to the credit of our ancestors, it is said that the girl’s discrepancy with the initial opinion about her was almost never the reason for the breakdown of relations. Marriage was created for life, so the question of how to choose a wife was approached seriously, with the involvement of all relatives and even strangers.

The external characteristics of a girl of marriageable age were of great importance, but the indicators of the old era have nothing to do with modern concepts of beauty. What was required of a young wife first of all? Continuation of the family. That is why strong hips, strong legs, a large wide back - the main criteria for full pregnancy and healthy childbirth - were valued in applicants worth their weight in gold.

Thin girls, all of them, were called “sick,” and “bringing a sick person into the house” meant marrying such a useless little white girl. With the introduction of a young wife into the groom's family, all the hardest housework was transferred to her - carrying half-pounds of cast iron, fetching water, washing, cleaning, sewing. Only a girl “in the juice” was able to handle the whole load of household chores, but what was the demand for the “unlucky” one? So the whole family toiled around the unlucky guy and his wife.

The second very important aspect was spiritual beauty, in other words, “pigeon purity”, virginity. True, in even deeper times, the submissiveness of the future wife played a much more important role than the absence of sexual partners in the past, and a young single woman with a child found herself a husband without any hindrance. But from the beginning of the 18th century, in the heyday of serfdom, the purity of the future family and the untainted past of a woman outweighed the reasoning of past years and the methodology for choosing a wife changed dramatically. They began to look for girls in their early youth - from the age of 16-17, and those who stayed as girls until the age of 25 had every chance of remaining unclaimed and ending up in some distant monastery.

For men, choosing the right wife is a task of paramount importance. Therefore, they need to know how to choose the right wife, a good one at that, and not regret their choice? What goals do representatives of the stronger sex set for themselves when entering into marriage? Why do you need to take choosing your soulmate seriously? What do you need to know when choosing a spouse? What criteria show that a woman is capable of becoming a good wife? What to look for? As you read the article, you will find tips and guidance to help you make the right choice.

Marriage for a man is a kind of contract between him and a woman that must be concluded correctly. It's hard to do this when you're emotionally and blindly love-sick, like a sixteen-year-old schoolgirl. Therefore, when choosing a life partner, you should be guided not only by feelings (love), but also by reason.

Goals

• Minimize the likelihood of divorce and blackmail of each other by a child.
• Receive mutual satisfaction with your spouse from the fulfillment of family and parental responsibilities.
• Instill in children respect for their parents, helping them become well-mannered, educated people. not pampered sons and daughters, but people who value family values.
• Get an outlet, refreshment from life's troubles.

Taking these goals into account, most representatives of the stronger sex see their soulmate as a joyful woman, capable of comforting her husband when necessary. They do not want the wife to be an “independent”, domineering lady with a masculine character.

Wife's choice

Let's look at some tips on why you need to take your choice seriously.

As soon as a man gets married, his wife immediately gains power over his money and future children. For example, in a divorce, all advantages are on the side of the spouse. It turns out that divorce is the legal theft of property from the husband. This is a redistribution of wealth, fortune, property from a man to a woman. In addition, she receives a “salary” in the form of good alimony to provide for her children + state assistance as a single mother.

For the law, the wife is the victim, and the husband is the tyrant. (It is worth noting that in many cases, the woman is truly the victim). Therefore, divorce for a man is an extremely unfavorable solution to family disagreements. This means that you need to take seriously the choice of a girl for the role of your future wife in order to avoid the breakdown of the family.

Cinema and women's novels give the idea that the main thing in marriage is love and a soul mate, only then will the marriage be long and happy. All this is the fantasy of television and book authors. The reality is this: marriage is an exchange of resources (quality, cooperation), where spouses provide each other with their resources. Therefore, when thinking about how to choose good wife important to remember:

If a girl does not provide her resources, does not want to provide, or her share is significantly less than a man's share, then she cannot have the privilege of being your wife.

When choosing a wife, should you have the same approach as millionaires choose the company in which they want to invest money? They don't trust chance. Businessmen research the company well, considering the pros and cons, and only then make decisions. At the same time, they sign the contract with a sober head, having previously studied it and familiarized themselves with all the pros and cons.

Therefore, a guy, wanting to get married, must do this not only out of blind love for a girl, but after first familiarizing himself with all her shortcomings and positive aspects. Only then will his decision be balanced.

You need to take your choice of wife seriously: to eliminate the risk of losing property through a possible divorce in the future. This probability should be minimized, especially if Then it is difficult to believe in the accident of divorce when you initially chose the wrong life partner. Then divorce is purely a man’s fault, since you had to watch who you choose.

How to choose a wife: what a man needs to know

1. As a man ages, his chance to marry correctly by choosing a woman does not decrease, but only increases. For him, age is like a fine, aged wine. Wine does not age, it becomes more expensive! Therefore, you should wait a little and not rush to get married. 27-30 years old is an acceptable age to start thinking about marriage. (Of course, everyone decides for themselves). This is the age when choices are influenced more by reason than by feelings. Moreover, more than half of the planet's population is women. Agree, there is plenty to choose from.
2. A man should not look like a woman. The things she has to do do not apply to him. For example, apartment decoration: wives cannot have complete, absolute control over home decor. It is unlikely that men want to live in emasculated rooms with flashy pillows, napkins, frills or flowers placed everywhere.
3. Marriage should be traditional old school. The husband is the head, the captain. The wife is a subordinate, the first assistant. This is a traditional marriage. If it’s the other way around, then it could end up with child support and seeing the children once a week every weekend. Marriage is a serious decision. Before you plunge headlong into it, you should make sure that you can “swim” well.
4. As a rule, marriage with a woman of the same culture is the best solution, then it is easier for spouses to find a common language.

By what criteria to choose

One of the most common questions among the male half of the population is how to choose a girl as a wife? After all, you want to have a good, proper wife. Therefore, let’s consider some criteria for representatives of the fair half of humanity.

Smart.
A normal man likes to deal with smart woman, not with a “dummy”. This means that the girl’s IQ should be above average. It's not about age. If a twenty-year-old girl doesn't have a normal IQ, she's unlikely to have one when she's 30. It's just that a 30-year-old with a low IQ looks dumber than a 20-year-old. To develop intelligence, a woman must love to read (not the yellow press), and also be able to think. (Do you want to know what character traits a girl needs to have in order to attract male attention? Then).

Negative attitude towards divorce.
If a girl believes that divorce can be a means of solving family problems or that it is better to get a divorce than try to mend the relationship, then it is worth looking for another goldfish. (Treason or cruel treatment by a marriage partner can be considered justification for divorce).

Remember: A marriage is successful when the spouses do not think about divorce at all, without considering it the only option for solving problems.

Must have an attractive face and qualities.
Most women begin to gain weight after thirty. When a woman's body changes its shape, the only thing left for a man is the face and qualities that he will see every day. Therefore, the future wife must have a face and qualities that are attractive to a man. (It is worth noting 1) that every man has his own ideas about beautiful face; 2) Any).

For a woman, family comes first, not career.
Does the lady want to become the mother of your children and the mistress of your home, or does she want to make a career while married? If he plans to pursue a career, he is unlikely to be able to devote enough time to his family, children, husband, and home. Let the husband think about the family income. A real man is looking from his wife not for help in increasing his income, but for a guardian of the family and his heart.

Remember: If a woman says that career comes first, then perhaps children (if this is not mutual consent), then this is hardly a good candidate.

The only opportunity for a representative of the fairer sex to marry a good man- This is to create a family, not a career. This is the desire of the majority, whose job is to be breadwinners and provide for their families. In the lady of their heart, they want to see, first of all, caring for her husband, children, creating home comfort, and only then a career.

This does not mean that husbands are against their spouse developing, having some hobbies, or doing business. It will just be incredibly difficult for her to combine one with the other without harming her family or her health. Most work because they have no other choice. They would gladly leave work to take care of their family, children, husband, home, if there was such an opportunity.

"Good girl."
A good girl doesn’t smoke, doesn’t “like” alcohol, and isn’t into tattoos. In her past there are no drunken “parties”, drugs, dirty sexual past and there was a minimal amount sexual partners. The ideal option is that she is a virgin. It is difficult for a woman with an active, promiscuous sexual past (prostitute...) to find a good marriage partner. The more sex partners there were, the more likely the marriage will end in a future divorce. Therefore, trying to change a bad girl through marriage is playing with fire, you can get burned. Although it is worth recognizing that there are exceptions. It's still better to choose your future wife from good girls family-oriented.

Willingly changes herself for a man.
When a lady loves, she readily changes herself: her preferences, views, tastes in order to please the man. Her new favorite food is the one her lover loves. The style of clothing that the loved one likes is preferred. His wife finds his films and books interesting. She changes herself to please a man, trying to love something she has never loved before. (It is worth noting that this is a mutual rule, that is, a man does the same when he loves a woman).

Remember: A woman who does not want to change, trying to behave independently of a man, does not respect him. A girl who is able to change her views and tastes, adapting to her loved one, is called a loving wife.

Considers the future marriage partner as the head of the family.
All representatives of the fairer sex dream of being with a man to whom they could willingly, readily submit. Whom you want to consider as your patron, head. For them, this is recognition of male power, giving them a feeling of security, making them happy, satisfied women.

Such girls have no desire to challenge male dominance or behave independently. They view submission to a man not as something humiliating, but as When the chosen one looks at a man like that, she will never covet his property in the future and joint children, using the latter as a means of blackmail.

Remember: the guy is obliged by nature. He must look and behave like a man so that his wife continues to admire him and love him.

A girl with a cheerful nature.
Her eyes should glow with joy, and a smile should play on her face at the sight of her lover. The brightly shining smile of a beloved woman is more valuable to a man than any of her university diplomas. A pleasant, happy smile is more valuable to him than any of her work. A happy woman's smile attracts him more than his career.

Do you want a happy wife without wanting to see her whining, dissatisfaction and constant pessimism? Then choose a lady with a cheerful disposition and a good sense of humor as your wife.

Must be able and love to cook.
If a girl has no desire to cook every day or she doesn’t know how to do it, then think and tell me how such a lady will take care of her children and husband in the future? Will he feed you semi-finished products, sandwiches, order pizza to your home, or plan to have family lunches and dinners in restaurants? Then it will not only make the husband’s wallet thin, but will also “ruin” the health of the family. Therefore, it is right to choose a woman who wants to cook normal food.

Conclusion

The prospect of living without a family, children + aging alone can be more difficult, no matter the effort. the right choice wives. It is important to remember: civilization exists thanks to the family. Of course, over the past 50 years, marriage has undergone strong, “dirty” changes to the detriment of everyone. Therefore, if men have traditional look for marriage, if you are going to get married, let them do it smartly. How to choose the right wife - this should be the most serious life decision for a man, which cannot be based on emotions and luck.

Best regards, Andronik Oleg.

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Many men do not quite correctly imagine what their future wife should look like. The main qualities of an ideal companion are not beauty, breast size and sexual liberation. Wise advice on choosing a girlfriend for life.

A man's view from those who are about thirty, on what qualities to choose the right wives for. The potential spouse must be...

How to choose the right wife?

The other day in the bathhouse the men touched on the topic of choice future wife. And since our team consisted of people of different generations, the dialogue, without unnecessary preludes, moved into the stage of beating babies.

Those who were about thirty made their rating as follows. The future wife must be:

1. Beautiful in face (so that every morning you get up to admire her features).
2. Long-legged. They say that short-legged women look like a Yorkshire terrier, they mince like cockroaches. Total shame.
3. Breast size three (two plus allowed). It’s this kind of chest that’s comfortable to sleep on, and it’s this kind of volume that fits well into the hard-working hands of a hipster or a cracker.
4. Good education. Preferably institutes in St. Petersburg or Moscow.
5. From a good, intelligent family.

6. News healthy image life.
7. Sexually liberated.

This approach can cause nothing but homeric laughter in an adult man. And this is what we gave in response.

The potential spouse must be:

1. Silent. As our ancestors, the Aryan Slavs and Finno-Ugric people said: the word is silver, silence is gold. It's better if she's mute. Or at least stutter a lot, especially when nervous. Silence in the family is the main condition for marital happiness.

2. Rich. Thanks to feminists - men and women now have equal rights. If a girl is from a rich family, then firstly, she is greedy and will not allow herself to squander the family budget. And secondly, the main financial burden of shopping and luxury goods will fall on the shoulders of her father.

3. Be able to cook well. Yes, office plankton and effective managers love to eat in cafes and fast food restaurants, acquiring, in addition to scoliosis and flat feet, stomach ulcers by the age of thirty-five. They don’t realize that a gadget like a wife has the most useful skill - preparing delicious and healthy food: dumplings, rare steaks, pancakes, potato pancakes, jellied meat, sour cabbage soup, pies and other delicious things.

4. Don't mind drinking and smoking. Imagine that after a hard shift at the machine you return home late at night and buy a bottle of vodka from the store. Here's a question for you to ask the pioneers: who will support the company? Yes, you could call Petya, but he has high blood pressure and is being treated for hypertension. Vasya has a stomach ulcer and doesn’t drink anything stronger than lemonade. Seryoga will not be let go by his rabid fury. Vitka is on a drinking binge. There is only one option left - to drink with your wife, vigilantly making sure that she does not drink more than two glasses, because a normal guy after a shift needs about 400 grams to restore mental harmony.

5. Short-legged. Women with long legs were bred artificially, like hound dogs. Only those hunt for hares, and these hunt for lop-eared men. In harsh everyday conditions, in a fight with wolves or goats, this breed is absolutely useless. The girl should have a big ass and short legs. She must stand firmly on her feet and give birth to children in the same way that our great-grandmothers gave birth. Women with such shapes, according to a study by British scientists, adore sex, in its traditional and non-traditional forms.

6. Breast size doesn't matter, because plastic surgery in this area has achieved significant results. Therefore, by agreement with your wife, you can choose any breast size. As the old-timers say: you can never have too many tits. At this point, the desire to breastfeed a child for as long as recommended by doctors and science should rather be considered a virtue.

7. Beauty is the final criterion by which you should choose a wife. We would even say that the word “beauty” is synonymous with the word “danger.” Have you seen any crazy people catching cabbage butterflies? But there are more than enough people who want to plant a swallowtail butterfly on a jade rod.

That is, if you want to decorate your head with antlers more beautiful than those of a reindeer, maybe you should take care to marry one of the current long-legged, busty and big-lipped predator models, but if you are a supporter strong family- marry a girl who has the six previous virtues.

And don’t forget what our glorious ancestors, the Tatar-Mongols, said: you need to marry beautiful people only so that you will be quickly delivered from your wife.

Many men are interested in a burning question that becomes a lifelong dilemma: “How to choose a wife?” The stronger sex is filled with endless criteria regarding their future halves, and therefore we present to your attention the most used list of qualities of an ideal beauty.

Age limits

In order to determine the most popular age range for representatives of the fair sex, often chosen as wives, it is necessary to turn to a survey of gerontologists and psychologists. The most best age, which a beautiful wife possesses, is considered to be within the range of twenty-three to twenty-seven years.

If she is a little younger than the established limits, then it is considered that the fair sex does not have sufficient property, social status, or useful character traits. If her age is significantly less than the established criterion, therefore, the young person needs to know by heart all the articles of the Criminal Code relating to the corruption of persons under 16 years of age. Therefore, you should keep in mind that eighth grade girls with huge and beautiful eyes will not fit into the “ideal and young wife” category. Whether it is good or bad to adhere to this point of view is up to you to decide, but life experience shows that maturity of character comes only with years and experience.

Education and education

If, while analyzing all the qualities of your wife, you touched on education, then you cannot do without the help of highly qualified teachers, the Ministry of Education, heads of personnel departments, or, in extreme cases, grandmothers from the entrance! This, of course, is a lyrical digression, but education should be present as a personality trait in every self-respecting girl!

However, as practice shows, educated girls with developed intellect They strive to obtain higher education in every way and manner. In any case, if there is nothing to talk about with your friend, or she does not understand basic life issues and problems, you should think about her role in your life.

Family status

How to choose a good wife? While searching for an answer to the question posed, you need to sneak a look at the passport of the chosen person. If there is a column about divorce, upon closer acquaintance you should find out about all the circumstances of what happened.

As a rule, smart and self-respecting girls do not make rash, serious decisions in the form of a quick marriage. However, situations in life are different, so it is worth unobtrusively understanding the drama that happened in her life about family life.

And, of course, a girl should not be in the status of a married woman, since this not only creates obstacles to the further development of the relationship, but also exposes her to a lie. And even if such an unpleasant incident occurs, then even the most beautiful wife will not be able to turn out to be a faithful companion, therefore, the status “ideal” is not assigned to such a lady.

Question of nationality

The problem of nationality is the most pressing today, since young people of various ethnic groups experience some difficulties in communicating with their parents. If there are no barriers of this kind in your head, you will easily find your life partner.

However, rich wives of modern men, as practice shows, will never wear a hijab, burqa or kimono unless there is a special theme or occasion in a modern European state. Thus, modern men, when asked: “How to choose a wife?”, answer the following: “She should have a European appearance, have luxurious long hair, cook well and wear skirts - these are the main selection criteria.”

Height: short or tall?

The question of ideal growth is largely decided by purely individual preferences. But there are also several opinions on this matter:

1. If you prefer a girl of standard height, you will never be able to experience unusual sensations in communication, intimate life, the spiritual sphere, everyday life, and so on. As practice shows, women with very small or tall have exceptional character traits, instilled by the amazement of those around them at the features of the meter mark on the wall.
2. Since choosing a wife is not easy, giving preference to the option of “average or short height” is prudent and correct. In any situation, you can look down on your companion and not deprive her of the opportunity to wear her favorite heels. But again, your decision depends on own preferences and characteristics of one’s own growth.

Weight and figure

The issue of weight is directly related to the figure of the fair sex. In this situation, the scale arrow can be deceiving, since the structural features of the body speak for themselves.

As for the figure, now girls with an athletic build are especially popular and receive everyone’s attention. This does not mean at all that you need to settle in the gym and start gaining weight under a pile of iron. No! You just need to keep yourself in good physical fitness, sometimes “dry” and regularly give the body physical activity. This way you will not only become the owner of a chic and alluring body, but you will also meet one more criterion when answering the question: “What should an ideal wife be like?”

Flying gait

When wondering how to choose a wife, pay attention to the gait of all the fair sex who make up your inner circle. When determining this criterion, it is also useful to simply observe those around you.

What does “perfect gait” mean? Men describe a similar phenomenon in the following words: “The ideal and attention-grabbing gait is a blurry silhouette on the horizon, evoking a passionate desire to get to know the lady without even seeing her face.” Unforced ease, natural movements, a certain rhythm - this is not something they teach in a modeling school. One of the above-mentioned gestures or qualities by themselves will go unnoticed, but together they give an amazing result and attract men like a sweet piece of pie. It is worth noting that Russian wives have the most flying gait in the Universe, since their men are the most courageous, capable of inspiring the lady of their heart every day!

A few words about appearance

How do millionaires choose their wives? Many men and women ask a similar question, since it is believed that all options are open to rich men, but this opinion is considered erroneous.

If, when you see a woman walking down the street, your first thought is: “ Gorgeous breasts!”, you are looking at a far from ideal wife. The issue of appearance is not determined only by body dimensions, since this is a wide field for women's work. As the magnificent Coco Chanel said: “There are no ugly women, only lazy ones.” The seductive bulge of one part of the body undoubtedly looks like the dignity of a beautiful lady, but appearance is always judged as a whole. Here you should definitely pay attention to the condition of your hair - clean and neatly styled; nails - decorated manicure; faces - beautiful and discreet makeup; figures - a slightly pumped up body will not be left without male attention; clothing style - no non-standard solutions, only if any element fits well into the gamut of the image as a whole.

Tender voice

Many Russian wives complain that loving man does not pay attention to them and does not say kind words. Not understanding the reason, many leave the issue without investigation, leading to terrible quarrels and, ultimately, to divorce. But the point is the absence of a trembling and tender image.

Judge for yourself: at the moment, the parody of a screaming woman in the kitchen, scolding her husband for minor flaws, does not surprise anyone. Moreover, the audience laughs infectiously at the images presented, understanding the inevitable reality. But every man, searching for an answer to the question: “What should an ideal wife be like?”, wants to hear compliments addressed to him every day from the lips of an angelic being with an angelic voice.

As a rule, men are attracted to a thin voice. The words of such a woman sound quiet and gentle, forcing you to catch every sound and listen to every phrase. This does not mean that you need to whisper pleasantly... Not at all. This fact only shows that if you want to receive the status of an ideal wife, you need to work hard not only on your appearance and character, but also on the timbre of your voice.

What should an ideal wife be like and her sense of humor?

Remember: the woman you love should not perform an entertainment function, but a sense of humor is a necessary selection criterion. In the presence of a representative of the fair sex with a good sense of humor, you can always show off your bright erudition, compatible with wit. Having made a good joke, you can be sure that it will not go unnoticed!

Moreover, someone who has a good sense of humor is able to not only understand your jokes in any situation, but is also able to laugh at herself. And if she can let out a bright phrase in the company of your friends - immediately lead her down the aisle! It’s extremely easy to understand whether a woman has a sense of humor; you just need to joke a couple of times on the first date.

What should the salary be?

An ideal wife, even if her age varies between two and a half decades, should have a useful profession that is welcomed in society. Her salary should be enough to take care of the comfort and well-being of a man, as well as allow him to create an ideal wardrobe and devote several pleasant procedures to his body and face.

However, keep in mind that such a criterion will be present only in the process of developing the relationship “young man - beloved girl.” In the event that you, as a couple, enter the stage of marriage, all expenses will fall on the common family budget.

Health: quality, without which you can’t go anywhere!

The first and most important reason for the presence of this criterion is that the ideal companion never has a headache. If you look at how millionaires choose their wives, you will see next to them only loving and caring representatives of the fair sex, at least in public.

Only your charm and charisma can put such a woman into bed, but certainly not severe attacks of the flu. Of course, everyone has the right to catch a cold once a year, but constant illnesses and complaints show inconsistency female body, and therefore the least ability to bear a healthy child - after all, this is what attracts males.

The most important thing is character!

“A woman with character” is exactly the expression that men will not always like! An ideal wife should always shine and be irresistible. If you are accustomed to numerous reproaches, dreary whining or despondency, the image does not fit in with your personality, because men love affectionate, caring and obedient people.

A wonderful character is not only about radiant smiles and good mood, but also a bit of discontent. The only condition that must be observed in this situation is that your man must immediately find out the reason for his bad mood! Moreover, instantly, and not after several months during a quarrel!

Another feature that distinguishes an ideal character from an ordinary temperament modern woman, is that she not only knows how to have serious conversations, but also start them at the right moment and at the right time. This means that after a tense meeting or in the process of resolving work issues, you should not distract a man from labor activity, since it is terribly difficult for representatives of the stronger sex to quickly switch from one problem to another. You probably won’t get a practical solution to the problem, but you can spoil your mood considerably. At home, you can always turn to your loved one for help, as well as solve all the issues that concern you.

By observing all the above criteria, you can appear before a man as an ideal wife, but the most important condition is to have real and sincere love for him!